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Recently I met a guy and everything seemed to be going well until he dropped the “H” bomb on me.  What’s the “H” bomb? Well dude told me he had genital herpes. Yup, the gift that keeps on giving. As many know, herpes is an incurable STD. It could either be type 1 or type 2. As a matter of fact, it’s said that 1 out of 5 people in the US have type 1 herpes, which includes things like cold sores.

This guy and I had never been intimate, and I was ok with that. We were only dating for about a month. We both knew that we were interested in each other, but I for one wasn’t ready to take a leap into being intimate with anyone without some STD testing. Yes, every new partner with me has to be tested. Together. I don’t play that “Well I saw my doctor two weeks ago mess”. I need verification. And the only way to do that is to go together.

I previously told the guy that testing is something that I do with new men I’m interested in developing something with.  What bothers me the most is that he didn’t say then and there that he was infected with type 2 herpes.

So how did he break it to me?

Over dinner.

Yeah, herpes definitely wasn’t a great segue from ordering dessert.

Granted I appreciated his honesty, but I also appreciate dating people who are STD free; so I told him that we couldn’t go beyond a friendship. I could tell that he’d been that route before and had women reject him after his omission. So I did feel bad, but not that bad.

Clutchettes, would you date someone with an incurable STD?

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  • cupcakes and shiraz

    Absolutely not. I’ve seen the consequences of what contracting an incurable std does and I’m not wlling to risk my health and well being.

  • Em

    Most people here are probably carrying some kind of virus. Did yo know that a cold sore is technically herpes? Even babies get it. This article is finer pointing and not helpful.

    • Jane

      A cold sore is treatable an STD is not. Last time I check babies do not have STD’s. Would you date someone with HIV/AIDS? My uncle had it and I have seen how it literally destroys the body day by day. He was a good man and I miss him dearly but there was nothing they could do. Although I do think there is medicine they are just trying to find a way to make the most money possible of off it.

  • Brownie

    Well, I want a kid someday, so no, but if I happen to reach an age where I’m not able to conceive, then I might consider.