Recently I met a guy and everything seemed to be going well until he dropped the “H” bomb on me. What’s the “H” bomb? Well dude told me he had genital herpes. Yup, the gift that keeps on giving. As many know, herpes is an incurable STD. It could either be type 1 or type 2. As a matter of fact, it’s said that 1 out of 5 people in the US have type 1 herpes, which includes things like cold sores.
This guy and I had never been intimate, and I was ok with that. We were only dating for about a month. We both knew that we were interested in each other, but I for one wasn’t ready to take a leap into being intimate with anyone without some STD testing. Yes, every new partner with me has to be tested. Together. I don’t play that “Well I saw my doctor two weeks ago mess”. I need verification. And the only way to do that is to go together.
I previously told the guy that testing is something that I do with new men I’m interested in developing something with. What bothers me the most is that he didn’t say then and there that he was infected with type 2 herpes.
So how did he break it to me?
Yeah, herpes definitely wasn’t a great segue from ordering dessert.
Granted I appreciated his honesty, but I also appreciate dating people who are STD free; so I told him that we couldn’t go beyond a friendship. I could tell that he’d been that route before and had women reject him after his omission. So I did feel bad, but not that bad.
Clutchettes, would you date someone with an incurable STD?