In an interview with Ryan Seacrest, Jason Derulo dished the details on what led to the split between now ex-girlfriend Jordin Sparks. One important factor that weighed on the couple was the pressure to get married.

He said, “What happened… in a nutshell, there was a lot of tension in the relationship for a lot of different reasons… There was a lot of pressures of marriage. There was a lot of arguing and stuff like that that just weighed on our relationship over time….To be fair, it was not just from her either. It was kind of from everybody. That’s not the sole reason, but it definitely played a part. We think it may have weighed on her more than it weighed on me. Yeah, she got frustrated a lot. She was in that frustrated space a lot and I think part of that was part of my problem.”

It led me to wonder, ‘Do we— family and/or friends included— put too much pressure on ourselves to wed?’

I can vividly recall a conversation with a woman four years my senior. She is an editor at a coveted magazine and in a long-term relationship. She said people would often inquire why haven’t the couple said, “I do” yet, but not once does anyone really inquire about her happiness. I thought that was very interesting.

Often, we see others in what appears to be a happy relationship and project our thoughts on when and how the couple should wed. We rarely ever ask, ‘Hey, are you happy?’ We don’t see how our opinions can cause pressure and frustration leading to tension in the couple’s relationship.

One thing is for sure: It’s not anyone’s decision to determine when you should be ready to wed. What takes one couple two years to decide, may take another five years.

 What’s your take Clutchettes? Do we put too much pressure on ourselves, family and/or friends to get married?

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  • paintgurl40

    According to part of his interview, it sounds like Jordin Sparks wanted to get married and he didn’t. I don’t ask ANYONE about their love life. I learned over the years to keep my mouth shut and mind my own business.

  • Wanda

    There is much less pressure to get married today than there was 40, 50 years ago.

    The problem now is that where the marriage culture we used to have was very specific in terms of what was expected, the “relationship culture” nowadays is very, very vague.

    I see this confusion even in my own family.

  • Curls&Swirls

    I just hope that he doesn’t just up and marry the next woman that comes into his life after dating for less than a year or something…idk why that tends to happen so often.

    I don’t think we put too much pressure on ourselves to get married. I think that if you know what you want, you ask for it…or just get it. I believe that when a man is ready, he’ll propose but he shouldn’t be pressured.

    I think that in today’s time, as a woman, we think of marriage as the final topping to feeling like we’ve set ourselves apart from the “ratchets” and “thots” of the world. But at the end of the day…anyone can get a ring and get married. jmo

  • Anthony

    I suspect that if Jordin Sparks wants a husband, she will find one. Every person or thing you want is not for you to have. She will get what she needs to have in due time.

  • I would have to agree with one of the previous comments. I think there is so much more emphasis on situationships and jump offs than marriages now days which is part of the problem. Yes clearly there is still some pressure to get married, but then we also see marriages that aren’t lasting half as long as say some of our parents’ have. I think people should definitely think twice before getting into another couples business in that way. The fact of the matter is getting married and having children are private issues. Not sure how they end up for public debate and opinion.