It’s happened to all of us, you log on to one of your many social media accounts and you see someone bragging about their relationship and how awesome their mate is. Again. Bae surprised me with flowers. Bae bae surprised me with dinner. My boo surprised me with concert tickets. There are of course accompanying pictures of bae’s goodness and light. It seems that they just can’t keep all of this love all to themselves.

But is it any surprise that people who want to climb the highest mountain to shout about their love just might actually feel insecure about their relationships? No, not really. But a study was conducted anyway.

Using Facebook as its social media site to study, the research, published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, “iinvestigates relationship visibility, the centrality of relationships in the self-images that people convey to others. The research explains that “avoidant” personality types were less likely to post about their relationships to the social network, whereas anxious individuals were far more likely to engage in deliberately trying to remind others that yes, they are in a relationship.

The study abstract reads:

On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible (Study 3). These studies highlight the role of relationships in how people portray themselves to others.

Of course this information probably won’t deter people from posting about their relationships and if they are insecure, it won’t fix that, but just keep it in mind as you watch posts about other people’s love lives scroll by on your timeline.

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  • MimiLuvs

    Nothing arouses my internet troll more than the over-abundance of unneccessary bragging of one’s relationship, on Facebook/Instagram. Especially when one’s relationship is very rocky… very-very-very rocky.

    • Anonin

      Lol if I was reckless I’d probably go on their instagram couple photos going “tell bae I said hi.” Jk jk

  • noirluv45

    I’ve oftentimes wondered about people needing to shout from the moutaintop about how great their love lives were, including celebrities.

    I’ve noticed that celebrities that do this (Amber Rose and Wiz and some others I can’t think of) wind up breaking up.

    It’s a beautiful thing to see people in love and in good, healthy relationships, but I never understood their need to tell everyone about it on a daily basis.

  • Curls&Swirls

    I thought we’ve always knew this?

  • Curls&Swirls


    It’s a self-esteem issue. Similar to some people who are materialistic, thinking that having the latest, greatest and most expensive name brands make them look better. These braggadocios people feel validated by the presumed jealousy of others.