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As Black women we will be judged no matter where in this world we choose to go, so why should we judge each other? — Nancy Laws / Black Voices

American black women have always been painted negatively in the U.S. media, which also influences the international community. From the Mammy to Jezebel to Sapphire, these stereotypes have affected society’s view of the black woman, setting the tone for her treatment by other communities before she is even given the opportunity to prove otherwise.

I remember when I first started middle school in the predominantly white community of Midlothian, Texas. Not only was I one of a handful of black students, but our family was the only African family in the entire city. Having to make friends turned my stomach upside down, as somebody who had always been very shy. The fear of rejection was too difficult to get over in my mind. I was drawn to quiet, intellectual individuals like myself. Even at that age, I was very focused, thanks to a mother who drilled the importance of academic success into my head day and night. I found it difficult to relate to my African-American classmates due to our cultural differences.

My first encounter with a fellow black female classmate was a nightmare. I had taken my hair out of braids for the first time, and she accused me of wearing a wig. She began jabbing in my hair and yelling out to the whole class that I had a weave on. At the time, I did not understand that she was simply a bully and that bullies can be found across all racial groups. I allowed myself to carry this particular memory with me throughout school, and did not have a single African-American friend until years after I graduated. Now I find the whole idea to be ridiculous, but it made sense in my mind at the time, due to the preconceived notions my family had about American black women.

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  • Now if it will help us and make a difference, I as a black man the god in me will allow me to apologize to all the sisters, black women who feel hurt, neglected, pain and abandonment by black men who knowingly and unknowingly neglected their duty to protect her physically, mentally, finically and emotionally I sincerely offer my apology.

    • Objection

      I’m bookmarking this post BB. The next time you start stereotyping black women again, I will remind you about your apology to black women. :)

    • ok bookmark it but it is genuine I mean it and not even shame about it, if my apology can help heal the mental, physical, emotional and financial hurt and pain black males has cause black women and help repair black males and black females relationships I would do it as much as I can however it would go along ways toward healing if black women had the strength to do the same but that’s on them.