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‘Even though some of your friends might be gay, they are not ‘yours‘– Andy Cohen

BRAVO’s Andy Cohen is tired of hearing the women on “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” referencing their gay male friends as “my gays.”

Last week on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live!, Cohen took a moment to address Beverly Hills housewives Kyle Richards and Lisa Rinna about their usage of the ownership term ‘my gays.”

After playing clips of the cast members using the term repeatedly, Cohen decided to try to school the women on how ignorant and offensive the term was by comparing the term to ‘my Blacks.”

“Even though some of your friends might be gay, which is great, they are not yours, You do not own them. We are not cattle. We are not purses. The next time you feel like saying ‘my gays,’ replace it with ‘my blacks’ and see how that turns out.”

We are assuming Cohen’s equation of ‘my gays’ and ‘my Blacks’ was an attempt to show that it’s never OK to use possessive statements when referring to people.

But, using Black people to drive home his point was not the best way to do so. Being gay and being Black are two totally different struggles and are in no way comparable.

If Cohen wanted to drive home his point on the usage of the term — a material comparison would have sufficed.

What do you think?

Check out Andy’s “Teachable Moment” below.

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  • PrimmestPlum

    I really take this with such a grain of salt. Cohen may complain about the language but he makes a killing of the ratchetry and unbecoming behavior Housewives franchise.

    • Meme

      I was going to say just that. How dare this cockeyed freak be offended at the phrase ‘my gays’ when he laughs like a gay hyena every week at every vicious thing the housewives say about one another.

  • madwmn

    F*ck COHEN!!! He makes oodles of dollars showcasing black women in the lowest, most embarrassing form and he’s getting pissed. I guess the other things that fly out of their mouths is just fine just as long as they don’t offend gays. In other words, they have to be good little nigglettes to participate. That’s why Marlo got the boot after that South Africa trip.

  • mbeezy

    I think he used a perfect example. But I take issue with the fact that Kathy Griffin has said the same thing many times. Now maybe she doesnt’ use that term any more but I know she did. Did Andy take issue with that?

    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

      While I hate the phrase too because when women say it, it turns gay men–actual humans– into accessories and a shortcut to showing off how chic and progressive they are, I think what it is that people that are responding to here is that is shows effectively do the same thing to black women but without the affection, but he thinks he can get away with it because he’s part of a (relatively) maligned group. Everyone can rag on black women, so he does. He mocks them and turns their loser shenanigans into a modern day minstrel show for his own entertainment and profit. So, he can sit on his throne of moral superiority if he so chooses but he conveniently forgets that he exploits the malignant hand of white supremacy to slap his fins together at ‘Funny Stuff Ghetto Coon Chicks With Airs Do’ while getting bunches of others who enjoy the benefits of privilege to do it, too. Who lectures him on that?

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    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser


    • Lor Blaufuss

      Amen, Mama!

    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

      Heh, heh. Thank-you, Sweets.

  • Lor Blaufuss

    Andy Cohen, being gay is Not a race! It has nothing to do with your ethnic heritage so please stop comparing homosexuality to being black or any other race. Yes there are similarities to racism but when you are asked what your ethnic background is do you say “I’m gay”? Can’t you see that making a big issue of an unfortunate choice of words just makes the matter worse? Geez, you can’t say anything anymore without offending someone. We’re living in a “police state”.

  • Niesha

    Being Gay will never be equal to being Black…. I wish people would stop trying to compare our struggles..