If you’ve spent any amount of time on Twitter at any point over the past 5 years or so, then you’re probably no stranger to the ‘first date etiquette’ or ‘$200 date’ discussion. The basic premise of the debate is that there’s a divide among men and women over how much is too much to spend on a first date, specifically on dinner. Naturally, a large portion of the female Twitter community feel that $200 dollars (while expensive) is an easily-accumulated price for appetizers, drinks, dinner and dessert for 2 people, while many men feel that $200 is too much to expect or spend on a first date.
The discussion is one that pops up just about once a month in cyberspace and this time, it was ignited by a telling text message conversation between a woman and friend following her first date with a new guy that she met online. The date starts off awkwardly when the man picks her up in his work truck because his car is broken. In the texts that have since gone viral, the woman tells her friend about the man’s openly frugal demeanor at dinner.
Ultimately, the woman ends up paying for her own food and vows to never date the man again, but not before she exchanges a few more messages with the man regarding their dinner date from hell.
In a perfect world, both parties involved in a first date would be on the same page when it comes to “how much is too much” in terms of expenses because regardless of what Twitter wants us all to believe is the right or wrong first-date etiquette, it really just boils down to what works best for the two people on the date. People should also communicate openly about their expectations for the date from jump. Not wanting to stir the pot with money conversations when you’ve been dating someone for a while is understandable, but if you’re going out with someone new for the first time, what do you have to lose by being upfront (as a woman) or asking questions (as a man) about date expectations? After all, you hardly even know this person! What good can come from investing so much into predicting what you think your date expects or is used to rather than finding out beforehand? As is evident above, not much good at all.
Clutchettes, what is your position on “first date etiquette?” Should men be expected to bite the bullet and go all out for a woman on a first date if that’s what she wants? Or should women be expected to keep the expenses at a minimum?
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