Ciara and Future are the paternity saga that never ends. Whenever either artist does an interview you can bet there’s going to be a bit of a backhanded comment made about the other and their so-called poor parenting choices and Future’s cover story with XXL is certainly no different.
In the midst of accusing Ciara of trying to take the spotlight off the success of his latest album, DS2, by constantly being captured by the media with Russell Wilson and Baby Future looking like one big happy family, the rapper failed to realize he took the attention off his own career when he donated a rather lengthy amount of time to saying his ex-fiancé is going about co-parenting all wrong. When asked what he could say about his relationship with Ciara, Future told the mag “people have a misunderstanding and every time it get explained, it don’t get explained right.” So XXL asked him to explain it right and this is what he said:
[W]ith me explaining it, I explain it one way and then sometimes she might feel like, Hey, I’m finna go two, three weeks and think about it, let it soak in and tell my publicist I need to do an interview and explain my side of the story. And I feel like you look at certain situations two kind of ways. Okay, I’m not mad that she moved on to a new relationship. But if I’m in my son’s life, if I take full responsibility of my son, like it’s me taking care of him, I need to be able to make 100 percent decisions on who should be around him, when they be around him. [Ciara can] go to a practice or to dinner with [her] dude, sometimes [Baby Future] can go with his dad. [Ciara can be like] “Let us work on us before we bring another kid into a situation that’s not promised.”
How many other relationships you in that you felt the same kind of way and now you got a kid to think about. It’s not only you that’s taking the pictures. And when you go with your next dude and wake up and look at the pictures, you building that cycle.
I feel like, man, let it progress a little more before you bring him to it, even let me meet him before you bring him around my son. I don’t want just anybody around my son. I don’t know this character. They might be God-fearing and everything else but there’s crazy in this world, you know what I’m saying? I want to be able to judge him for myself. I want to judge the nannies that’s around my child. I don’t want to pay for a nanny that I never met, that I never got a chance to interview. That’s not the life I want for my child. I want to be involved 100 percent in all decisions made. This my flesh and blood. If I don’t want him to do something, there’s supposed to [be a] compromise or we supposed to talk about it. You not supposed to just go behind my back and do it. This is my son, too.
If [my children’s moms] took care of [my kids] financially, they could make financial decisions. They could be like, “Hey, you can’t do that because you not spending this, you not spending that. You don’t do this, you don’t do that.” You can’t say nothing, I’m being a 100 percent man. I’m taking full responsibility of my kids. So I feel like I have a say so of who they can be around, you know what I mean? Even when [Ciara] was around my kids, I made sure she met they moms.
At this point XXL asked Future if he was basically implying there’s a way to go about this whole baby mama thing and he essentially said yes, taking a cue from his vast personal experience of having three children by three different women when he met Ciara.
Yeah, you didn’t take a picture with none of my kids and put them on the Internet. If you took a picture with my kids, they mom was right there. I took a picture with [Ciara] with all of us and the kids, they mom there, they grandma there, my mom, my grandmother there, everyone’s there. They not in the picture, but our surroundings was, we was comfortable, we was moving as one, as a family. Decisions that I made, I made them with you and I made them with my kid’s mother.
I used to go up to my kid’s mother’s house with Cee in the car. You at they house, I’m showing you, I’m not hiding anything from them or you. It’s an open family, you feel me? There’s no secrets. Why wouldn’t you want me to meet the person that’s going to be around my son, first? Is there some flaws that you don’t want me to detect, you feel like I’m not going to like them? Is it something you’re hiding from me? But I could be wrong. There’s a lot of he say, she say but I want to be a 100 percent dad. I want to be a better father to my son. You have to allow me to do that, too. You can’t just take my privileges away and tell me to be the best dad in the world.
Unfortunately, the rapper thinks he and Ciara’s parenting issues have spun so far out of control they may never be able to get on the same page.
[I]t’s too evolved. It’s like when you do a scheduled interview and you know exactly what you want to say. Like, I’m doing this interview with complete thought, not knowing what we going to talk about or how I was going to say it. It isn’t rehearsed. But once you done these interviews and you done rehearsed them, and you pretty much filtered what you have to say and what you want to talk about, it’s not real. You not letting people know the real deal, the real issue. You giving one side, you know what I’m saying?
I’m telling you right now, I’m giving you two sides. Like, I’m cool with it. I’m cool with him being around him but certain situations, we all in the public eye, you can’t move around with my son a certain kind of way, you know what I’m saying? I feel like a lot of moves are just made out of just being evil, basically. Because, you know, the success of my album and you still want to make certain moves to take the spotlight off me a little bit and shed light on a negative situation. Why would you want to put light on a negative situation? Even if I didn’t care about it, the people have a way of looking at it. Why would you want to give these people an opinion on our kid? Why won’t we just let our child be a child? Why would you put him in the spotlight, paparazzi taking pictures for the rest of his life and then when he come to a point of his life where there’s adversity right in his face, he don’t know how to take it because he feel like somebody’s going to be there to save him? You done put him in a situation where he feel like he gotta reach out, he can’t get himself through this.
The way I hold my son is gonna be way different, I don’t care if you love him the same. You think you may love him, but my love is gonna be way different. The way I look at him, the way I hold him, everything is going to be different. The things I tell him, my real feelings is going to be different. You can’t get the love of a father that’s genuine and replace it. My love is real, so why take something that’s real and something that means the world to me and try to taint it?
Why would you want to taint our moments? Why would you want to put any negative energy even if we was happy? Even if I met dude and we was like, “Man, it’s cool.” I would’ve said, “It’s not good to be photographed within like, the first year.” You gotta think about it man, we was together for a year or two years and it didn’t happen and now we have a child together and you done moved into a relationship and have the child in your new relationship. It’s like, what’s the logic behind that?
If you want love or you looking for somebody to just take care of you and you feel like, “Man, to take care of me wholeheartedly, I’m willing to give everything. I’ll sacrifice my son, cameras, these interviews. I don’t give a f-ck. I need you. I need to be at your practice. I need the stability. I need to show you that, man, I’m here for you.” And I understand, for a female, when you in a vulnerable situation, you need to find out what’s your next big step for you as a person. So you make certain decisions that might affect not only me, but affect our son, and affect our family, affect my family and the way they look at you.
And the way we look at you, too, Future. What do you think about his interview?
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