Breaking up is hard to do. Whether your relationship concludes with a dryly delivered “It’s not you girl, it’s me. I’m the one with all the various issues” or you’re the one who pulls the plug when things start going south, it’s never easy. But it’s proven to be even more challenging in the social media age because parting ways physically is just the tip of the iceberg. Untying the pretzel of a network you spent x amount of time building through the years is a hassle at best. Facebook is finally reaching out a helping hand. Cue the slow clap.
They’re testing out new tools that will allow users to digitally distance themselves from their exes. Here’s how it will work:
- To see less of the person’s name and profile picture around the site, with their posts not showing up in the news feed or name suggested when tagging friends in a status or photo.
- The option to limit the photos, videos, or status updates an ex will see.
- The ability to edit who can see old posts with a former partner and the option to untag posts with that person.
After you break up with someone and change your relationship status accordingly, Facebook will automatically display options to see less of your ex’s name and photos, allowing you some space without the seemingly aggressive act of unfriending them.
Users will be able to block pesky exes from showing up in their news feeds, or just opt to see less of them in general. You can also make sections of your profile invisible to your exes and untag yourself in past posts and photos with that person (and your former flame won’t be notified that you’ve made those changes).
“This work is part of our ongoing effort to develop resources for people who may be going through difficult moments in their lives,” Kelly Winters, a Product Manager for Facebook blogged. “We hope these tools will help people end relationships on Facebook with greater ease, comfort and sense of control.”
Facebook is currently testing these features in the U.S. for mobile users, and will make them available in the near future.
Until then, remember: Scrolling through his profile will only upset you, especially when he starts posting all the happy “Look y’all, I’m single!” photos. And on the flip side, you don’t owe anybody behind the scenes access to your life. Never feel obligated to keep someone on your friends list on any platform for the sake of not appearing petty or affected. If he wants to be gone, he can totally go. And missing out on your gorgeous selfies is just a pill he’s gonna have to swallow. Tough cookies, bruh.