Natural Hair Nazis

BeauteNoire says:

When I made the decision to go natural it wasn’t because I wanted to make some political statement or connect to my “roots”, so to speak. I wasn’t experiencing breakage of thinning of any kind. Quite the contrary.

I understand that a lot of natural women harbor some resentment because of the way they were treated when they first went natural. Having the people closest to you question your decision and make you feel like you’ve ruined your appearance can make you feel like people have an unhealthy obsession with straight hair. And some of us do. I just don’t see how passing on that negative energy is helping matters.

If you feel so strongly about natural hair, why not give some of the support you wished you’d received. As they say, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, so be a little sweeter the next time the discussion of natural hair comes up instead of going into attack mode.

Vixen says:

Star13 what if they don’t know the rules. I don’t know many that read the “rules” of a site. Honestly, Nappturality is the only site I know that has rules. Also, most newbies are looking for ANY information and just looking to have their questions answered. Going natural is not easy as many women here have stated but why be rude to new people that are there for help!

Why be mean and attacked them for no reason? I know that site (nappturality) is the mecca for women with natural hair and newbies are directed and attracted to the site and some of the sistas there are just mean for no reason. Most of the women here and on other sites were not naturals all of there lives — so why have a attitude to someone who is going through something u went through when u started your journey?

You can say what you want about women with perms. Natural women are too damn extra. And when people say they (naturals) go through a lot when going natural and get “side-eyed” on their hair. Here in Atlanta we LOVE women with natural hair and no body side eyes – we look cause we love their hair. Every woman I know that is natural is ALWAY praised for going natural. ESPECIALLY by women with perms! So please stop using that excuse.

LaKeyshaF says:

Vixen-
I agree with you that there is no reason to be rude. But I also believe that the “excuse” that you dismiss is a legitimate factor. I would love to go to Atlanta and have people give admiring stares to my natural hair but where I have lived natural hair is not revered unless it is what is commonly referred to as “good hair”. It can get to you when people are CONSTANTLY looking at your hair with dismay or even just politely asking you why dont you get a perm? Believe me, this comes from those you know and complete strangers. So all I am saying is that ones skin can become a little raw from the abrasive comments and then toughen up in an overzealous way.

bellamari says:

i was once a member of nappturality and haven’t visited that place in a year. a friend of mine warned me about the favoritism, racism and shaqueesha attitudes over there and i didn’t listen. but reading that site with the nasty attitudes and high-school childishness from women in their 30’s and 40’s and it doesn’t take long to understand why black men, as well as white people, hispanics and asians, prefer mixed or other females and dislike most black women or develop a strong dislike for them.

go over there and look at many of the members’ fotkis. these are the bottom of the rung girls as nappturality is mostly populated by nappy-headed females that are disgustingly fat, ugly or both. maybe the owner should be given an award for giving these angry pigs a place to get together, whine, commiserate and cry about nobody finding them attractive since the pretty natural chicks eventually leave that septic tank for healthier-minded natural and curly hair boards. dudes stay far away since nappturality may have 2 or 3 male posters and the minute some of these chicks spot a male poster, they are pathetic. they either start throwing their i-panties at them or act like every semi-literate post the dude makes is deep profound knowledge.

and it is not just that the nappy nazis spray their ghetto attitude insults in the hair forum of nappturality that make it a dismal hole, it is how the owner (who is full of shit and dishonest) has allowed a bastion of messiness and intolerance in sections outside the hair forum. she and her lame ignorant moderators don’t just ban posters for making a ‘how can I straighten my hair’ post, they ban individuals if, by chance, they were not obama supporters or held other political or social opinions that were not in line with their designated ‘black political thought’. i was banned because i supported another presidential candidate and not an obama ass licker.

there was once about 5 really pretty and really intelligent females there but nappturality has a huge clique of unattractive women that obviously don’t have a life and spend way too much time on that board, and the owner and moderators allow this clique of cows to run the board, get away with rule-breaking and decide people should not be at nappturality simply because they don’t like their opinions.

Tania Because I Don't Hide Behind Fake Names says:

when logic fails just call people ugly. that’s always the way to bring intelligence and insight to any argument.

Wildchild says:

@Jazmine said: “I ran across more than a few when I was a newbie over at Nappturality. I remember I made a post about straightening my hair after I got a couple more inches and they next day I came back I have like 30 comments of girls, pretty much attacking me. I have to say that day, I was like if this is how all “naturals” act, then forget it.”

@Jboogie said: “I was once a member of Nappturality and left after some of the members “reported” a picture of my hair after I took my braids out…I was contacted by an admin and was told that my hair “appeared” chemically straighten lol…which was not. I made a discussion thread about it but it got deleted so I decided to leave quietly. Any place where my texture is not appreciated I don’t need to be a part of.”

@Bellamari said: “i was once a member of nappturality and haven’t visited that place in a year. a friend of mine warned me about the favoritism, racism and shaqueesha attitudes over there and i didn’t listen. and it is not just that the nappy nazis spray their ghetto attitude insults in the hair forum of nappturality that make it a dismal hole, it is how the owner (who is full of shit and dishonest) has allowed a bastion of messiness and intolerance in sections outside the hair forum.”

Jazmine, Jboogie and Bellamrai I had similar experience. At first I offered access to my Fofki and because I have light eyes and natural long hair below my bottom and include pictures of my hair blow-dried straight, several members of Napptrality left nasty messages on my Fotki that I had to delete and I offered no more. Bellamari’s comment were harsh, but I agree with most of what she said because even outside hair forum, Napptrality site is very intolerant of opinion of women from other countries.

That Napptrality site only like African Amercan girl and African American insight opinion, but not opinion of female with African descent throughout diaspora and they all the time criticize light skin women or cry if for Zoe Saldana or Hale Berry is put in movie and not some dark girl with nappy hair look like Indie Aree. There are ugly white womens and pretty white womens. Women at Napptrality act like there is not ugly black womens and pretty black womens and that all black womens should be said they are pretty all because they are black with big nose and lip or nappy hair.

Bellamari says:

smoke that crack and be delusional all you like, vanity. i won’t doubt that you might walk into a room and be OK (simply OK), but you couldn’t compete if we walked into a room together on your best day so now deal with the entirety of what i wrote.

nappturality is full of threads stating how black, white, hispanic, asian and all other men go for the brown or light skin girl and ignore the dark or african american girl. it has more than enough threads stating how your own black men prefer mixed or other women instead of african american women.

i think it is not your looks but your nasty attitudes and constant loud mouths that can not shut up and learn to listen and learn, but nappturality is full of threads of dark nappy females crying about this light skin female being put in a movie or being a love interest. and anyone with internet access can see that a lot of the females at nappturality are fat, unattractive or both. the few coward light skin females at nappturality are too busy being insecure and licking the asses of dark nappies to get acceptance and pitiful too.

EclecticJam says:

I think this is an awesome article. I have read many of the comments and agree with some and disagree with others. I think whether natural or relaxed you should be informed and research. You dont just go into a dealership to buy a new car and point at one and say thats it without researching anything about the car. Its important to know what you are doing to your hair not only so you can be informed but it shows you have knowledge of your descision and you are aware of the history and the effects of your descision. but ultimatley its up to you, you make the choice. and like with the natural hair nazi’s there choice to comment may come off worse than what they expected. everyone is entitled to there opinion and we should embrace each other regardless of it.

vanity says:

Bellamari, you wish I was just OK. If we walked into a room, I know I wouldn’t have to worry about you. It is not black men who think that dark skin women are unattractive, it is you. That is why you think you are more than competition for me. I on the other hand know that you ain’t got nothing on me because I know what I look like. You are basing your perception on skin color. You really do have some deep issues. Just because a person is light doesn’t imply your hair isn’t super kinky and just because your hair is super kinky doesn’t imply ugly and just because you are dark doesn’t imply your hair isn’t curly. The natural nazis are not just dark skinned women as you imply. Also these women who seem overzealous are just protecting the image that napptural hair is beautiful. I went natural specifically for my 5 year old daughter(who was 3 at the time) to show her that natural hair is beautiful and that God didn’t make a mistake in her. She has curly hair and while people are always telling her how pretty she and her hair are, that really doesn’t compete with barbie and cinderella and all of the little girls in her class with straight hair, in which some have told her that her hair was ugly.

So bellamari, just stick to the subject, as you are making wild claims that show you have some deep rooted issues and you sound too old for anyone to have to have this conversation with.

LaKeyshaF says:

In the grand scheme of things…hair is just hair

But since we’re talking about it…

For us to have a complete and healthy view of ourselves as individuals and us as a culture we need to learn to accept and love those characteristics that make us generally different from other cultures.

Our hair is one MAJOR difference and we faithfully alter it to look like another cultures. (Even when europeans get curly perms they are only looking for curls that imitate their culture…I have YET to see any of them aim for a fro).

As I stated in a previous post…is it really possible that 400 years of enmity concerning our hair has nothing to do with the fact that 85% of us use harmful chemicals to straighten our hair to look like that of the authors of our suppression?

I wish our hair was like our behinds. lol. It is a distinct characteristic of AA’s to have larger rounder butts than other cultures. But we have EMBRACED this characteristic no matter what other cultures say.

Soul Cry says:

I fully agree with Chloe.

pressthatnappyish says:

If you really want to be natural, dont put nothing on your hair, dont comb it and wear it matted to the back of your head so that it looks like carpet. THATS NATURAL!!!!

Bellamari says:

look little vanity, i am nowhere near 30. yickity all you want and i’m still not convinced. just so you know, i happen to find many dark skinned females gorgeous and very pretty, it is just that the majority of those mean nasty dark skinned ickzoids at nappturality are not!!!

and i will stick to whatever i choose since your irrelevant black ass can’t dictate what i do or write nor tell me what to do. you described yourself as “intimidating” and i hate to inform you that you black females have no power and, because you don’t, all you can do is jump up, roll your necks, get loud and act masculine or like shaqueeshaghetto then delude yourself into thinking that this makes you “intimidating” when all that is is annoying, clownish or something people laugh at. it is 2009 and black females need to finally get it that their loud mouths, messiness and ghetto attitudes is tired and should be buried. more and more men do not want that type of mess.

i DID “stick to the subject” in my first post which was “nappy nazis” and, next, that racist nappturality site, i wrote about nappturality’s fascist tactics in forums that have nothing to do with hair so girls that are considering going natural know the deal before going over there or giving that site money. it is just that you did not like my opinions and, out of everything i wrote, decided to zero in on a figment of your imagination (words i did not write) and accuse of ‘downing dark skin women with kinky natural hair’ and calling me “childish” etc. i gave my opinion and, if you didn’t like it, oh well, but call me another name and i will call you names and cuss you out right back!

you are typical, vanity! a typical hypocritical nappturality troglodyte dummy that makes up shit, sees offense in everything under the sun, can’t read, always plays the victim and chills in the cut reading bitter angry haters at nappturality write the most racist, ugliest and meanest things about mixed, light skin, hispanic and white people time and again and over and over and say nothing. oh but shaqueesha comes out to hoop and holler even if she has to conjure up an insult against dark skin? maybe, vanity, you need to find some integrity and be flapping your lips at the racists and racism at nappturality. and, for your reading pleasure, here is a recent quote from nappturality (though there are thousands upon thousands that has spanned the last few years) of how the owner, mods and blackadicious nappturality cowards constantly insult light skinned and other folks:

“I still hated seeing all light skinned, curly headed/relaxed black folks.. Like ain’t no “100%’s” no more.”

finally, i love the example you are trying to provide for your daughter and don’t doubt that both you and she are very beautiful. but don’t overlook the truth about nappturality, it’s racism and way many of the posters there slam light and mixed chicks on the regular then try talk shit to me about your made up insult against dark skin women because people are tired of that kind of concocted crap.

Laquita says:

Again, I still ‘heart’ Nappturality and I am sorry that many have experienced negative comments from the site. Throughout my years of subscribing to the site (yes, I am a paying member – but remember you don’t necessarily have to pay to be a member) I have come across only a handful of negative comments, fortunately none directed to me and I have witnessed negative posts shut down by moderators. I also credit Nappturality for putting me in the position I am in today – writing (with knowledge) about natural hair.

Like Clutch said, there are always going to be bad apples and I am determined not to let them deter me from the insight and friendships – the Meet Ups are great by the way – and all that I have gained and continue to gain from being a member of the site :o)

One of the ways I combat negative comments that I come across on various sites is by encouraging those who are wrongfully attacked either by commenting directly on a post and/or sending them a direct message pretty much with the same things I stated in the piece, and providing them with my blog site or email address so they can ask me directly questions that they have. There is a great feature on Nappturality called Adopt a Newbie where you can provide help to those interested or new to the natural hair journey. That, the transitioners board and product boards are my favorite hangouts on Nappturality :o)

Also I want to remind everyone of Hairlista and K.I.S.S. and other hair sites like those, where those who are natural, permed, pressed etc. come together to share product ideas, compete in challenges and so on…