Comments on: And, You’re Not Married Yet?

By: Niqs

Niqs — Wed, 21 May 2008 12:35:14 +0000

I think folk just get sooo caught up in the norms of life, and not breaking any boundaries. Being single is just not part of their programme, they dont understand how you can still be a part of society and hold your own- because they couldnt..

By: tremaine

tremaine — Thu, 24 May 2007 10:54:25 +0000

*sighs* I hope you find that someone.

By: Talking marriage to being single

Talking marriage to being single — Thu, 03 May 2007 01:42:32 +0000

Wow…interesting article. I am 32 and have never been married and don’t have kids, so you can only imagine how many times I have been asked this question. Lol. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2+ years. Everyone just knew it was only a matter of time before they’d be attending our wedding. He’s been married before and had a terrible divorce but I thought he had dealt with these scars and we were talking about being married. All of the marriage conversations were always initiated by him. I thought we were headed in the right direction. A month ago he told me he “wasn’t ready”. Needless to say, I was devastated.

Once I heal and move pass this ordeal, I am hoping to find that special someone to spend the rest of my life with.

By: lesliearnelle

lesliearnelle — Sat, 21 Apr 2007 16:55:33 +0000

Wow…what an awesome topic. Bravo to all the replies. Im 31 and no I dont like being single. Yes I would love to find my TRUE LOVE and say that God has finally released him to me and Im happily married and so on but you know what Ive found true 3 things:
1. We dont have a clue what true love is until we find true love in ourselves.
2. We will not recognize TRUE LOVE if we continue to settle for less.
3. darn lol it slipped my mind….lol!

Ladies & Gents, I can go on and on but to make it brief lets please stop settling just to say were married or in a relationship because all we end up doing is livin a lie that will end up being a wear and tear on your spirit and soul in the long run!

I too know 3 ppl I can name who’s in a relationship just because they have a child with the person but cheating on the side because their not happy…I say why risk bringing something home that will cause more problems and why waste your time and their time if you want out…

SIGH!!!!

Stay Fab & Blessed!

Leslie A.

By: Leela

Leela — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:08:45 +0000

I know someone who caved to this question by living a lie. She lived with an older man all thru her twenties while friends/family tried to advise her tht she was “settling” while he accomplished all his qoals. she hit 30 and gave him an ulttimatum and ran her mouth. Instead of leaving as she told friends/family she would, she stayed brought a house with him and lies telling friends/family and employers that she is MARRIED! isn’t that the SADDEST? This mars her integrity and self eseem in every way. She is now too ashamed to come around those friends/family due to her humiliation. She even went so far as to buy herself a fake wedding set and wear it too work. But when seen out in public she twists the ring around to be unseen. But was stupid enough to put her name/credit on a 30 year mortgage with a man who wouldn’t even change a flat tire for her.

By: Watch_and_Learn

Watch_and_Learn — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 17:27:05 +0000

I found my new favorite blogsite-YEAH!!!! This article was very enlightning as well as thought provoking, especially to those of us in our mid- twenties who are constantly bomabarded with nosey family members (they mean well…hopefully)! I’m gonna put on my Jill Scott and get reflective for a moment…excuse me ya’ll!

By: tremaine

tremaine — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 01:23:26 +0000

Yanna, I often like to write about things I actually experience when they are *this* important and since I have yet to “shack up” with anyone, I don’t think my thoughts for or against it would actually be meaty (so to speak) enough for my taste. and, Happily Married, I think you gave some very sound advice. As of today, I’ve yet to find someone who understands that when I want space, peace, and time to write, I actually want and NEED that. there are other things as well, which there always are…

but; I’d like to meet someone who embodies this quality and will not become an instant jealous bug when i spend a little too much time with my head in my notebook. so, i thoroughly agree that once you’ve found that person who gives you all that you need and desire and understands you too, definitely do what you can to hold onto him|her. thanks for reading.

By: Happily Married

Happily Married — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 23:11:06 +0000

@Yanna, Oh yeah cohabition isn’t a tricky one either…just communicate effectively about EVERYTHING! dishes, cleaning, parents as in-laws etc. It helps if you can do it in a way that’s fun, you know laughing over home-made smoothies, or Sunday afternoon drives while looking at model homes etc.

By: Happily Married

Happily Married — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 23:06:16 +0000

To all singles, being blessed with good marriage where both partners work together for tranquility is priceless, My husband has yet to hold me back from any of the dreams that I want to achieve, if anything he’s contributed to helping get stronger in them.When he had dreams of pursuing the NBA, I was on standby being ME,MYSELF and I. My point is if you feel your better off pursuing your life’s work single then JUST SAY SO! If you are lucky enough to find a partner who wants to grow in success with you then that’s just icing on the cake. And by the way we are almost turning thirty and are still empty-nesters. We spend so much time pursuing our dreams of success that we haven’t stopped yet to consider the impact of kids, oh well if it happens?…

By: Yanna

Yanna — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 23:03:07 +0000

Great article! I agree with everything said. I am in a fairly new relationship (1 year) and am constantly evaluating whether he and I are on the same page. I have no problem walking away from something that’s not going to benefit either party in the end. I’ll be 25 this month and o one is asking why I’m not married yet, but when they do I’ll do my best not to let it bother me.

*Idea* do you think you could do an article on cohabitation?