Comments on: Love in Black and White

By: Deborah

Deborah — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 02:58:54 +0000

I love all race of people but I think that Black is most Beautiful
and I prefer my Black folks. I can truly only be proudest when
a fine Black man is on my arm next to me.

By: slim

slim — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 15:46:43 +0000

That girl (Paris Hilton) is a ugly, skinny slut with the body of a crackhead little boy
everything in flat on that ho. I’m a brotha that sticks with the sistas. I’ve never
dated outside my race and will never date anything but my fine, black queens.
Black women are the best and know how to handle themselves like nobody else and
they have the best bodies. I just feel more at home with my own.

By: brent

brent — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 07:12:15 +0000

White people are so nasty and twisted in their ways
they are sleazy and think they are better than anyone
else, like the slutty paris hilton the no talented whore
the only thing she good at is screwing her dog
and video taping her nasty ass self screwing anything else.
I think white people are the most evil and nasty of all
other races of people so I am definitely against
interracial mixing with them. Do we black people not
have enough problems already in life? Why
make things worst than they need to be? I know people
will disagree with me and that’s fine. This is my own
opinion and we all have one.
I know people can pick who they want to be with
but race mixing with whites is just sickening to me.
Plus they have always hated us in general and that’s
something they have always been supreme at…Hatred and
destroying anything that would uplift black people.
White girls do anything for attention.
They will screw anything or anybody, animals
and even their own family members. They
have done nothing but cause damage and harm to most
every race of being on the planet.
I think that blacks who date white do it for status
and money for the most part. You all know it’s
true.

By: faraja

faraja — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 10:51:00 +0000

I just want to say that I’m proud of us for speaking what is on our hearts and I agree with everyone viewpoint
for the most part. I think that everyone here so far has spoken from their hearts and it’s a beautiful thing.
It’s a healing thing also. I love and appreciate the wisdom and intelligence from everyone of you.
D I love your sincerity and your wonderful frame of mind. You’re deep and giving in your wisdom and point
of view. I believe you come from a very good place and I would say to you don’t even doubt yourself in that
what you have shared here has been a treasure most valuable. Thanks to everyone. We are blessed to
have such a way of communication to express ourselves. Love to you all.
Black is Beautiful!

By: Call it as I see it

Call it as I see it — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:04:58 +0000

Ceecee, I feel you on that. Having to work so much harder – it’s just not fair (the Africa thing was a joke to illustrate many fish in the sea…). It IS frustrating. But our outlook on life has a lot to do with it. If we see ourselves as victims, we will continue to be victimized. People may put us down, but by the grace of God we will stand up again. Faraja just broke down what I was trying to say, we need to devote our time to healing by seeing ourselves through God’s eyes, to realising that if the Being who made the world could sacrifice His Son for us, then who cares if some man doesn’t want us?? The only One who matters does want us!!

Certainly if a man is gracious enough to tell me that he won’t date me because I’m black, I would be grateful. I wouldn’t want to waste a minute of my life on one who would not appreciate me, especially based on something that does not define me, so better I know where I stand sooner rather than later. Yes, it hurts, but pain is part of life. And pain will recede and eventually die if you let it.

Eric, thanks for the excellent post. I think the aim of this article was to discourage us from judging interracial couples based on our own preconceived notions. Unless it’s a pair you know personally and you know their motives, how can you know what brought any two people together? You can’t!! And like Eric said, they are the ones who have to live with their decisions. I pray that each of us, men and women alike, receives the healing we need. The past has been grim, but God can do so much better in our lives if we allow Him to.

And to close Today’s Sermon (sorry I really can’t help myself, my fingers won’t stop moving – I NEED HELP :D!!), I will say this – Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness; and all these things will be added to you (Matt 6:31-33). I pray I haven’t offended anyone, because that is not my aim. I just want us to be free and happy!! God have mercy on us all.

By: Eric

Eric — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:41:17 +0000

Man there’s some strong feelings coming off these letters. I won’t bother commenting on the article. But I do have a message for the black women who wrote in upset over interracial relationships.

I know personal responsibility and self-esteem are at a low point for black men. I also understand that systemic racism and disproportionate justice has a lot of us behind bars. And there still exists very powerful interests that find creative ways to drive wedges between black men and women. So yeah, I get that it’s tough to find a black man. Hell, it’s tough to find a black woman too. Apparently we keep missing each other. I know that the historical separation from our homeland has caused immeasurable trauma. But we’re here now. I was born and raised in America and wouldn’t choose to have it any other way.

It doesn’t matter if black culture as you envision it survives. Ditto for white, Hispanic, and any other ethnicity. I’m not one to preach, but I don’t believe we were put on this planet to glorify ourselves nor our culture. Sooner or later it will all return to dust.

It’s 2008; we’re only slaves in our minds. Africa will always have a deep and spiritual meaning for all mankind. But it’s time to write a new story for the black man in America. It’s time to create a culture we can carry forward to our children regardless of what shade their skin or what color their eyes. I’m talking about a culture that relegates racial preference to the same level as “fries or onion rings?”

With that in mind, stop attributing self-hatred to every black man who dates/marries outside his race. It’s entirely possible to have preferences that aren’t determined or influenced by some deep-seated well of psychological angst. Stop assuming we don’t like or can’t handle strong, self-reliant women. Surely some men fit that demographic. But when you see that beat down look on a man’s face, or we lash out, stop, investigate. Like Wesley Snipes said, “I know we’ve all been hurt.”

That’s it. Keep searching for what you want from life and let other people make their own choices. Ultimately, they’re the ones that have to live with those decisions.

By: Mod 2

Mod 2 — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 02:11:04 +0000

I am against bros dating w women for status. A friend of mine is married to a white woman, and he often mentions her blonde hair and blue eyes. In his case, he got with her as a way to “get back at the white man”.

My way of getting back is to marry a black woman and build a solid black family.

By: faraja

faraja — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:41:04 +0000

I see both your points and agree that some sistas may be hating and wasting time like that D
but I think like CeeCee expressed it is very frustrating. We beautiful black sistas have a lot of healing
to do because the whole damn world dumps a lot of crap of us and gives us so little love in return,
it doesn’t seem like a lot to ask for a little love and understanding from our black brothas.
I think people have the right to love and be with whomever they wish no matter what color they are
but again I desire my own race of people and the diversity within our own people is so vast , you would
think we would never feel the need to go outside of our own people. There are many beautiful, wise and
deep loving sistas like you D, CeeCee and myself to keep many a brothas satisfied (LOL)when given the
chance, but the time is ticking away and we should not waste time being hateful and angry but, to get the
healing, understanding , love and as much satisfaction in life as possible where we can. Much love to
you beautiful black sistas and brothas out there.

By: ceecee

ceecee — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 13:50:19 +0000

You know it’s not really about sisters hating, it’s just frustrating to be told over and over again “get over it! get out there and find a man in the park, home depot, the gym, in Africa (like it’s that simple)” why do we have to work 10 times harder?

By: Call it as I see it

Call it as I see it — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 09:14:20 +0000

Preach Faraja, I type long time, lol!! You should see my emails about nothing!!
Girl, I know what you mean, but what I mean by get over race is to get over hatin’ on people because of racial issues. Is it not a person’s right to make a choice? Is this not a free country? It is simply ridiculous and does no one any good! Life is too short for hatred/bitterness, and when we’re all dead and gone, what would it have been worth?

I understand about loving your own people best and I really respect that, but it shouldn’t get to the point where you’re offended and mad at people because they made a different choice.

Bottom line is this: the brothas are out having all the fun they want and the sistas are moping around, talking about how life’s not fair and hatin’ the chicks that the brothas are with!! It makes no sense. Go out and do your own thing!! Live your own life!! You only have one, don’t waste it on negative emotions!!

Man… I really need to stop typing :D. But one more thing – I love me some Jill Scott!!!