Thank you for the comments. Where I met this guy was in the amongst successful people. The shared friend he and I have is extremely successful. The environment that I am in is comprised of a multitude of people who are either at the top of their game or on their way there so it’s not where I met him.

This guy, this individual, does not value himself or better yet does not push himself to his fullest potential. I have spoken with him recently just to see if I may have been hard on him and find that I wasn’t. I tried to “encourage and uplift” him but fact of the matter is, is he doesn’t see a problem or the issue with the things he does regarding his priorities. If I am taking care of business and working on my future be it school or working the standard 9-5, I want a man who is doing the same. WHAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH THAT! Black men or lazy men no matter what color they are use a woman’s success as an excuse to be mad because our success is reflection of their will do’s and wanna do’s that never got done and are piling up in the bullshit corner . The funny thing is with his ex, he said that ever since she passed her certification she started acting funny. Like she was all that because she was tired of carrying his ass because the 500 dollars made from side jobs was not covering it.
Are we acting funny or is he now feeling shitty because we’ve bust our asses for umpt number of years to finish our programs while he been doing bs side jobs to make ends meet because he won’t find something that benefits him and his own life.
I LOVE my BLACK men and I do believe that we are unit, (A UNIT – AN EQUAL OF TWO BECOMING ONE)but there comes a time when a man has to be a man and grow up. At 32, you should be taking life seriously and working on what you are going to do at 40, 50, 60. Not still trying to pay rent when you only been paying half the rent for the last year and a half. You should have something saved up. It’s called SAFETY Its called responsibility and if he or any other males don’t have them or neglect them and insist on making me feel bad because of his faults and life issues then you’re right I won’t support or give any of myself to them because they don’t deserve me or any other Queen no matter what race you are.

Thank you, god bless and good night. : )

I think more people should take responsibility for their decisions in who they choose to keep company with. You are just as much at fault as he because you did not see past your infatuation when making your decision. I would bet there was a suitable black male positioning you but you probably passed him up for the cool guy that turns out to be a nothing. I used to blame you black women. Which I feel most are gold diggers selfish with their hand out always wanting to know what I have accomplished as a man but besides these degrees have nothing to show for there empty degree holding lives. I realized it was the type of women I was keeping company with. It wasn’t the females fault they were nothing, it was my fault for messing with nothing females. I too was infatuated but these are decisions we make as these supposed more intelligent than the ones we down.

To end this RANT I would be willing to bet my left arm the reason you run into these type of dudes is your environment. I bet you that your close friends and family resemble exactly what you seem to despise. Change you environment get out of LA county I have noticed since I left there are a lot of good black people men and women it just seems most leave for a pursuit of a different style of life. Last but not least this is not a bash I have 4 daughters and respect your struggle without typing forever know we are in this struggle together SeEK THE POSITIVE NOT THE NEGETIVE. Always remember we have to put the past to the past and leave the finger pointing to the politicians. BLACK MEN AND WOMEN HAVE TO UPLIFT EACH OTHER.