Comments on: She Got Her Own

By: Bethy Pierre

Bethy Pierre — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 08:05:06 +0000

I find myself returning to this article for a much needed refresher on the direction I need to be in.

Great piece indeed. :-)

By: Nai

Nai — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:27:59 +0000

Well, well, well, welcome ladies. I’ve been on clutch for over a year now, ;D and it is the best. The best thing yet. This article reaches me at a trying time. Recently out of a long relationship (6yrs+) and attempting to get attached on a rebound, (which recently ended after 11 months),(Not Right, I know,I know, my emotions!!!) If we women put as much energy into loving ourselves as we put into loving these men, we’d be better off. When a man is ready to give his love, he will, but, this is of course once he has “done him” Once he reaches this point, he is a “Man”
We get caught up in the moment, when we should just really stay wrapped up in ourselves. As stated above, “A “man” is going to persue you when you show the world that you can “do you” to perfection” Im so sure that Ibreathfashion did not become a Pediatrician running up behind, or trying to please a human man. We have to re-evalute, and keep the cookies in the cupboad, well I know I do, LOL……..

We hold all the cards, weather we know it, or not.

So please God let me/us take heed.

By: Loet

Loet — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 03:50:23 +0000

Im late to the parti, but Im glad I arrived. Great piece!!!

By: Veronica

Veronica — Sat, 30 May 2009 06:15:29 +0000

Hi IBreatheFashion :)

Great! Can’t wait to see more of your comments. I wasn’t trying to be extra just so tired of seeing negative comments on articles meant to uplift.

@Bailey – me too! Just over a month ago and I am hooked!

By: Bailey

Bailey — Sat, 30 May 2009 06:10:55 +0000

This was great! I am a Pediatrician and I am happily married and I got my own. Women of all backgrounds and interest can benefit from this article.

In my opinion, its not glorifying material things it’s telling women to take care of themselves first, which you should. With or with out a man. Honestly, I wouldn’t be where I am or have what I have if I didn’t have a “do you” attitude.

Great job Ladies! And Veronica I agree. I just found Clutch a few weeks ago and it’s a breath of fresh air!

By: ibreathefashion

ibreathefashion — Sat, 30 May 2009 06:10:48 +0000

@ Veronica… There is no underlying malicious intent in my statement, my opinion is simply that: my opinion :-)

By: Veronica

Veronica — Sat, 30 May 2009 05:49:45 +0000

@ IBreatheFashion. Your a Negative Nancy Huh? How is this article anything by uplifting and positive. I swear SOMEBODY always finds SOMETHING to disagree with and most of the time for no reason. Your last paragraph sounds like a bad general assumption/stereotype and stupid. Most women who are using those slogans are successful, happy and balanced women of color. Women who are most likely in happy relationships with men and financially smart. I haven't seen you on Clutch before so please don't come here being the negative commenter on every article (I just seen your last comment - looks like that may be your claim to fame) Clutch is a rare jewel, if you want drama go somewhere else. This is the one site I come to to not to see that mess.

By: ibreathefashion

ibreathefashion — Sat, 30 May 2009 05:38:53 +0000

Specifically speaking, the vibe of this article comes across as being a bit unrealistic & disproportionately glorifying superficiality and material assets as a mark of life success. Yes, independent womanhood identity is necessary for all women–i.e. education, worldliness & ability to be financially independent when necessary– however, a lot of black women take the whole super woman thing too far in their personal lives. No, you dont NEED a man, but you DON’T NEED to spend most of your life alone either–vibrators, waking up almost everyday alone & spending every weekend with your homegirls gets old very quick. Hence, focusing on acquiring a lasting relationship is just as equal importance as career and money.
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The same women aggressively yammering “I gots my own” and “do you boo” as their primary life slogan are more often than not the same women who’s top priority in their 20’s was the house/car/manolos that end up 30+, unmarried, childless/single-parenting and complaining that chivalry is dead or men ain’t sh*t…. hmmmm, i wonder why…..

By: Aura

Aura — Fri, 29 May 2009 05:48:04 +0000

THANK YOU GIRL!! Really needed that extra kick in my rear end. I need to keep elevating my game if I want to attract what I’m looking for. True, he doesn’t want to deal with all your past demons and all that. Hmm..tinkering away! Going to do some serious closet cleaning.

By: Brandy

Brandy — Thu, 28 May 2009 15:22:08 +0000

Slow clap. Tell it, girl, tell it.