Comments on: Standard Practice

By: Arlice Nichole

Arlice Nichole — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 03:12:59 +0000

Great article! Very interesting.

By: krianne

krianne — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 00:06:27 +0000

I THINK THAT IT GOES 50/50 WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS. YOU GOT TO GIVE A LITTLE TO GET A LIL AND THIS GOES FOR BOTHE SIDES OF THE TABLE YA DIGG!! WOMEN DO NEED TO RAISE THEIR STANDARDS BUT MEN ALSO NEED TO GET THEY ASS ON A STRAIGHT LINE AND NOT EXPECT TO BE SPOON FEED EVVERY 5 SECONDS. MEN AND WOMEN NEED TO START TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOOUR OWN SHIT. YES HE/SHE MAY HAVE DONE THAT AND THIS BUT YOU MUST REALIZE WHAT DID TOO AND TRY TO BETTER YOURSELF.IF YOU FEEL YOU WERE ALL YOU COULD POSSIBLY BE WITHOUT SWEATING BLOOOD THEN SHIT MOVE ON AND TRY AGAIN. I DO AGREE WITH MARIA BUT AGAIN THIS ALL STARTS WITH A WOMAN….GUESS WHO…MAMA!!!!
SO IT MAY NOT BE YOUR FAULT IT MAY BE MAMAS FAULT SO NOT ONLY SINGLE WOMEN WATCH YOU ACTIONS BUT MOTHERS WATCH YOURS TOO CAUSE YOU JUST MAY TRAMATIZE UR POOR BOY INTO.. GOD KNOWS WHAT. BUT AGAIN ALSO 50/50 IF MAMA SPOILS YO ASS YOU NEED TO GROW UP SOME DAY AND STOP BLAMING YO GIRL 4 HER ATTITUDE…GET YO ASS UP OUT MAMAS HOUSE THEN DAMN.

By: Alicia/InstantVintage

Alicia/InstantVintage — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 06:51:32 +0000

Very well said and I totally agree with him.

And @soul kiss – I think it was a play on the title and a reference to a standing ovation. =)

By: soulkiss

soulkiss — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:06:46 +0000

Very interesting. But what the heck is a “standard ovation?”

By: Jayda

Jayda — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:29:25 +0000

I wish black men would just stop giving all these fake a@% reasons as to why they run to “Becky Sue”… The bottom line is this: black men do not want to be questioned about anything, they want someone to wait on them hand and feet while they lay on the sofa all day with the remote control flipping from channel to channel, they want to WORK when they want to work… BUT expect YOU to get up every morning and hit the clock, they don’t want to be held accountable for anything, and they want someone who will agree with them on everything as well as someone who they can talk to any kind of way —- So for this, I say to the brothers, go ahead and get with Becky Sue BECAUSE Jayda Simone (and a whole lot of other sisters out here ain’t going for none of this)!!!!! Yes, we may have some attitude problems…but perhaps it may have a little to do with US being tired of picking yo a@$ up from the train station everytime we go somewhere, OR, from loaning (or should I say giving) you money everytime we get paid, OR, tired of having to visit you at yo mama’s house… or, calling you and yo mama answering YOUR phone, or inviting you over for a nice evening JUST for you to show up with nothing but a hard
d!@k….AND, getting up the next day just to do THIS all over again!!!!!!! Maybe, just maybe, this is were some of the attitude is coming from!

Just SET UP and be a REAL MAN!!!
NOTE: not all brothers…but MOST!!!!!!

By: Tyra D.

Tyra D. — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 04:07:33 +0000

First, speaking from experience, no one can do anything to you that you don’t allow. Whatever you go through in a relationship, understand that you always have a choice. Second, we can “teach” men how to treat us by the presence we have in a relationship. I agree with menotu 100%. It’s not about a lesson plan, it’s about our behavior in relation to theirs. Men are very simple creatures. If you don’t put up with behavior that you don’t like, then they won’t do it. If he calls you at 11:30 every night wanting to come over and you say that’s not okay but you let him come over, then guess what, he’s gonna keep doing it. Ladies, we do have more power in a relationship than we realize, and it’s not just about sexuality.

By: Maria

Maria — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:05:47 +0000

Im shocked by how readily the women on this site accepted responsibility for the situation between blackmen/women, and all it took was a man telling you where you’ve been going wrong all this time LMAO… did you buy the one about him pulling out before he comes as well!

I dont deny that women need to set high standards with regards to how they want to be treated and I have a lot of friends who do just that and the majority are alone or dating white guys!

Lets consider the kind of women that black men fall into the arms of in order to get away from us triflin’, worthless nappy headed, bad attitude, overweight………the list of the black womans negative attributes is endless.

1. Kim Kardashian- She starred in a video where A MAN PISSED ALL OVER HER!!!!!! But SHE will make the ideal wife for Reggie boy.

2. Heidi Klum- She started dating Seal when she was pregnant with another mans child, a child that that man wasnt claiming without a paternity test.

3. Idina Menzel- I have no evidence to cooberate this….but I think she used to be a man.

4. Anyone who has been on Jerry Springer- And they dont seem to have trouble getting hitched 4,5,6,7 times.

In this millennium its finally acceptable for a black man to date a white woman without fear of being lynched and the brothers are taking full advantage of that and I for one support them in this choice because I have no time for a person who has so much self-hatred that he cant bear the sight of his female counterpart. But to suffer this indignity and take the blame for it is adding insult to injury.

As everyone has pointed out, this is a self esteem issue, and with all the negative bs that black women have to deal with in the mainstream media, I cant see the value in finger pointing articles like this that erode our esteem even further. Why didnt you just call it “Reason no.146 Why Black Women Aint Shit…”

@Hollywood- “But y’all can keep blaming black women or rationalizing some other nonsense. ANd black men please stop trying to tell black women why they are single and what they need to do to not be single. You need to focus on your “brothers” and help them become quality mates for all these single ladies!”

PREACH!

By: Hollywood Blackout

Hollywood Blackout — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 18:16:41 +0000

LOL @ this article.

There are so few good black men out there (yeah, I said it, there are very few!) that sisters are so desperate to snag one they are willing to deal with the cheating and the lying and sharing.

I don’t count baby daddy’s and thugs and criminals and the unemployed as even worthy of a mate so once you take away all those the pickings are pretty slim.

And all the so-called “good” men do not want to date the average black woman anyway. They feel entitled to a “dime” or some other mess so that’s even fewer men for the average black woman. We all know the numbers are skewed: after 25 black women begin to outnumber black men almost 4:1. In some places it’s even higher like 6:1. So the reason there is no “black love” is because there are few gainfully employed, emotionally-sound, non color struck, non sexist black men available. Period.

But y’all can keep blaming black women or rationalizing some other nonsense. ANd black men please stop trying to tell black women why they are single and what they need to do to not be single. You need to focus on your “brothers” and help them become quality mates for all these single ladies!

By: Alicia

Alicia — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:51:25 +0000

LADIES LADIES LADIES!!!! IF we don’t stand for SOMETHING, we will fall for ANYTHING!!! …that’s the mantra i’ve always lived by…is why i am happily single!!!…it takes quality to recognize quality and until God is ready to give me what he has in store for me…all the baby daddies can KEEP IT MOVIN’…*giddyUp!

By: Cree

Cree — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:54:02 +0000

Yes Morg…I agree with you!