Comments on: Subpar Sisters

By: 1HOTLEX

1HOTLEX — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:15:48 +0000

@ GERTY W…VERY GOOD POINT ABOUT ” It’s about working with what you have.” YOU CAN LOOK GREAT WITHOUT SPENDING ALOT OF $$$ BUT ULTIMATELY WHAT IT BOILS DOWN TO IS CONFIDENCE!

By: 1HOTLEX

1HOTLEX — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:13:10 +0000

YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD BY SAYING SOME PEOPLE ARE SENSITIVE. I BELIEVE THAT IS ONE OF THE MAIN PROBLEMS WE HAVE TODAY. NO ONE WANTS TO ADDRESS AN ISSUE OR BRING UP A PROBLEM BECAUSE THEY ARE AFARID OF WHAT THE OTHER PERSON MAY THINK. I THINK HONESTY IS THE BEST ROUTE TO TAKE NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH. THE ONLY THING ABOUT THAT IS YOU WILL HAVE TO DECIDE HOW TO ADDRESS THE SITUATION AND HOW TO TALK TO THAT PERSON. THERE IS A WAY TO BE HONEST WITHOUT BEING HARSH. MOST PEOPLE WALK AROUND LOOKING THE WAY THEY DO BECAUSE SOMEONE LIED AND TOLD THEM THEY LOOK GOOD. I FEEL LIKE THIS, I WOULD RATHER YOU TELL ME THE TRUTH AND HURT MY FEELINGS THEN TELL ME A LIE AND HAVE ME MAKE A FOOL OF MYSELF….JMO.

By: JB

JB — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:29:01 +0000

I can relate. I am one of those subpar sisters at times. I still look decent when I can. One of my closest friends is fashion forward. She gets tired of her clothes real fast so most end up passed down to me. Sites like Freecycle always has people giving away clothes. When it comes to hair. I cannot style my hair(just yet) but I am having a time finding someone I trust to properly do it. So yea my hair looks jacked up alot until I find time and someone WITH talent to do it.

By: Gerty W

Gerty W — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 00:54:59 +0000

I think people have really misinterpreted the message of the article.
I don’t think the article is about looking like you are on the cast of Sex and The City. It’s about looking your best, however you like to dress, be it casual, feminine, Jimmy Choo or Target.

You can look great without having to wear designer threads.
We can sit up here and claim its not about looks but at the end of the day you are judged by how you present yourself. Would you show up at a job interview with holes in your shirt, hair undone, legs unshaven, etc.? Not if you want the job!

Being broke is no excuse of not looking your best. You can shop at The Salvation Army and still look great, let’s not get it twisted.

By: L.N.

L.N. — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:30:26 +0000

Some people are broke, some are lazy, some are going through rough times. I am all 3. I don’t like looking like I have $$ b/c I don’t want to get mugged. I don’t like looking super-feminine in public (tight skirts and high heels) because it attracts unwanted attention, it’s harder to move, and harder to run away if needed for safety reasons.

By: Atlanta

Atlanta — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 03:58:06 +0000

Oops I meant received. Excuse my bad grammar, my momma would smack me.

By: Atlanta

Atlanta — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 03:52:35 +0000

Judging by how many comments this article has gotten, I see what women really care about. :/

By: Empathy007

Empathy007 — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 01:19:40 +0000

Sometimes, the outside is a reflection of what’s going on in the inside.

Perhaps the FIRST step should be to ask the sister how she feels, if she’s feeling depressed or has some other health or family issue first.

By: Gerty W

Gerty W — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:45:59 +0000

My late grandmother cleaned houses for a living and never went further than 8th grade in her schooling. But if you look at her pictures from back in the day, she was the sharpest woman on the block! It’s about working with what you have, and she was a great reflection of that

By: Gerty W

Gerty W — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:43:39 +0000

Unaltered Beauty,

I rock natural hair, but let’s not forget that the “natural” look can also be high maintenence.

For example, if I want to get my hair loced today professionaly I have to pay at least $85 or more. Not to mention the hassle in some cities to find a beautician who can really do natural hair at a reasonable price.

It’s all about being the best “You” you can be whether you rock a Fro, weave, locs or a simple ponytail.

I agree with Roxy, lack of keeping yourself up underlies much deeper issues..