Blame evolution, not your upbringing. No one should be mad or ashamed about it.

Sister I understand you. lol Sure, I have a little something nice, but it’s certainly nothing to brag about. I’m tall, nice sized breasts, attractive, hips, thighs (to name the physical). Sure I get noticed…until my best friend walks in behind me; she has a behind that could battle Serena, and might just win. Can I blame the men? Shoot, sometimes I catch myself looking at it. Lol And I know, it can cause insecurities.

But what can you do other than love and accept yourself. Unless you’re going to take the risk of plastic surgery, you might as well embrace it. You’re more then a piece of tail, we as black women all are. Even my same friend can tell you, it gets tiring. Sure there are some women that use it to their advantage, but there are many who have more to offer to a man, yet always they are reduced to the size of their behinds.

You can’t purchase confidence, strength, integrity, intellect, class, and self respect/love, and in my experience, one thing a good man is sure to notice is confidence. Confidence and self love can rival any big booty. And those that miss out because they’re caught up in the search for biggest booty miss out…their loss.

What am I supposed to do about it ? Cut off my balls ?

Personally for me, if I see it, I look. I take a brief glance. It’s almost an innate, uncontrollable reaction. Simple. I don’t gawk.

Certain brothers that take more than a glance need to check themselves and the women that exploit the attention they get by provoking those self same type of brothers by dressing provocatively need to think about the influential standards they’re setting, especially to the young, and the signals they’re sending out to the wider world of Afrikan women. The importance of the latter is so so so so important especially in this age of global digital media.

It is not a means to judge a person however or a pre requisite to engage in a relationship (to a degree). In fact, of the two relationships I have had both women didn’t necessarily have the biggest assets in the world; they were assets.

I hope Afrikan women take it as a sign of appreciation. There is nothing like it in the world.

It is ours.

What you call not having an ass, is what I call what a right minded man understands as being at the foundation of something of truly genuine substance. in other words; having nothing to do with such considerations.

We are not our bodies first and foremost, but light itself. Our bodies are a reflection of our awareness of this light. And the more close we are to this awareness the “lighter” we travel on the non physical plane. Why should this not extend into the physical as well? If more people confronted this, do you think there would be so much hassle for someone as yourself? They say the greatest flower blooms in adversity. In this case, the adversity is societal disconnect from what you naturally understand. If you feel me let me know…

Namaste

Now, I will say when me and Nicole (Atlanta “show off my butt Nicole”…lol) go out she gets the crazy attention cause of her butt! We usually get about the same attention until she has to get up or wear something to showcase her “assets” – which makes me wanna beat her up and cover her butt up with a moo moo dress. Nicole please stop trying to show your booty off when we go out so I can get some attention and a date! DANG! (just kidding…lol)