Why deal with the groupie love?

Contrary to the title, this article is not a scathing article towards the men about their sub rosa love affairs. No, this is for the women who pursue men of power for reasons other than the important reasons. We all know that the athletes, actors, and musicians garner an exorbitant amount of attention from the opposite sex. We know that men in positions of leadership, whether it be a church pastor, business exec, or professional sports coach (you didn’t think that it was just the players who attracted the women, no?) get the triple takes.

We get that.

One would think that if there were only a select group of men who hold said careers, then one would look elsewhere to avoid the heartache that comes with being the mate of a person who is highly visible and attractive.

You would think.

Having recently graduated from college, I have seen this firsthand, on a smaller scale. Greeks and athletes are the “rock stars” of a college campus. Women know this. They see them step in full view, stroll or hop in parties, dress in GQ gear in the lounge, and wear all kinds of distinctive colors. They hear the stories, but yet, they fall prey. But this article isn’t merely about women chasing men of power and esteem. It is about the limited supply, high demand principle that we become familiar with in economics.

We are talking about the 90/10 principle: 90 percent of the women want 10 percent of the men. Ask any woman what they want in a man, and you are virtually assured to hear the same qualities in different variations. This is not about standards either. There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want. Just know that there are consequences, and one of them being that as long as this mentality is shared, then there will always seem like a shortage of men.

This is in no way me hating on another man’s game. Blokes, if you pull by the dozens, more power to you. I am talking to the women who – in business terms – foolishly seek out the high demand product for reasons that have nothing to do with the product’s durability, ability to fulfill need, and entertainment value over a lifetime. If you don’t heed these factors before you buy the product, then you will do nothing but repurchase it. Nobody wants to keep buying the same good every year.

In other words, check out the consumer reviews before you purchase. This is not exclusive to the entertainers of the world. That married, doting-father at your job or the deacon in church or even the author whose book just made Oprah’s book list. The 90/10 principle is ubiquitous. Men fall prey to this rule as well. But again, I am talking to the women.

I am talking to the ones who are tired of picking the wrong dude time after time because of poor due diligence. Approach a relationship like you would approach a business investment: when everybody envies the same product, the smart investor looks to buy another stock. Why? Market saturation. Why buy the high-priced stock when there are plenty of diamonds that haven’t been discovered and have more potential for growth? In fact, buying a home and choosing a life-long mate parallel more than one would think:

Both are decisions made to last for a significant amount of time.

Both require endless maintenance.

There are endless costs, thus work is necessary to keep it.

You always look for the home with the best equity; likewise, you always look for the man who will “pay” you more throughout the years.

Now of course, if you are just looking for a quick purchase, flip, and resale, then this doesn’t apply and you can look for the short-term fix. Groupie love is what I call it.

Strange thing about groupies though, is that that somewhere down the road, you’re going to get caught up. Some day…some time.