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5 Things That Can End A Relationship Before It Even Gets Started

Monday Mar 16, 2009 – By Sky Obercam

79535215Although we all have varied thresholds of tolerance, there are always some sure fire ways in which a guy can kill a courtship before it even have a chance to develop. What are commonly known as those “red-light” or “ah-ha” moments can sometimes happen the most inopportune moment during a date or phone conversation. The following are some “relationship killers” you may have had the displeasure of experiencing:

Yes, we live in a modern day and age, but you can bet, if a guy just leaves the check on the table after a meal, without even a mention as to why he can’t even pay for the tip, he’s getting dropped.

A man talking about domestic abuse, as if it is a an acceptable option is not an option.

If he says “bit – I mean woman,” it’s time to call it a day.

Nothing kills a date faster than a fella who admits to having multiple kids – none of which he actually takes care of.

If a guy is overly critical of you early on in the relationship, kick him to the curb. That kind of neurotic behavior is just the tip of the iceberg.

These are just a few absolute no-no’s that can send you running for the hills. Depending on your taste and temperament, there are countless more things a fella can do to completely avert your attention. In the end, consider it a blessing that you saw the signs before investing anymore of your precious energy and time into a futureless relationship.

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  1. Lianne Lianne says:

    I met a guy once that actually had 4 kids by 3 different women. AND one of the children was less than a year old. No thanks….

  2. keke keke says:

    My dealbreakers:

    cannot keep a date or if they keep changing the plans

    consistently late without calling and notifying me; its time to hang it up.

    That says to me that he is hiding something.

    Also a big one…How does he treat the wait staff at restaurants?

    If a man is rude/impolite to the wait staff at retaurants or social gatherings, trust, that bad attitude will pop up during your relationship!

    Other things, while not necessarily dealbreakers they grab my attention…

    does he make sure that I don’t walk on the side of the curb as we walk down the street?

    does he open my door?

    does he wait until both meals are at the table before he starts to eat?

    does he really listen during conversations?

    that gives me insight into how considerate he may or may not be

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