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Be a Self Motivator
“Let your haters be your motivators”. NO! YOU be your motivator! I know that everyone has at least one hater and we shouldn’t let those jealous and envious folk stop us from doing what we want to do but, the only real person that can stop you is you. I’ve recently been stuck in a place where I’ve lacked motivation. I even told some of my friends that I needed motivation and encouragement to do what I wanted to do. Even though I got the motivation and encouragement that I had asked for — the missing piece of the puzzle was me motivating myself. I realized that no matter how much my friends were cheering for me on the sidelines I had to be the head cheerleader in order to get where I was trying to go.
Besides, people come and go and that’s just a part of life. So if you’re always depending on someone else to pump you up then what are you going to do when they’re gone? Who’s going to pump you up when you’re laying in bed at night thinking about your goals and dreams? Who has the last say so on what decisions you make? I know that times are rough and some times we just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel but, when the going gets tough just keep it moving.
If you want to start that business then do it. If you want to buy that home then do it. If you want to move to a more progressive city then do it. Just remember that you hold key to your destiny!
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Great post!!! You have to be your biggest motivator. You have to believe in yourself and not seek approval for your decisions…
I needed this! :-D
Excellent post!!
I write motivating quotes, scriptures, or affirmations on my bathroom mirror w/ dry erase marker.
It’s the 1st thing I see in the am. It helps me to start my day with a smile.
As a man thinks so he is ….. Proverbs 23:7
I agree. I was at a point in my career where my friends pulled an intervention on me. They explained that the work that I shared with them has lossed a “glow.” Further, they shared that I had lossed my self-confidence. I know that no one can get that back for me but me. As poster Mortina wrote, encourage yourself (daily) and evaluate yourself periodically. I am in the process of asking myself what motivates me. What makes me happy? What am I passionate about? Is there anything that I can change that’ll bring me closer to the “me” I invisioned? Please do the same for yourself and stay encouraged!
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I agree and thanks for the post.. The only thing that’s holding me from my destiny is ME!!
I think that the whole concept of “haters” is so old and overdone, so I’m over the “Let your haters be your motivators” theory.
That hinders you more than anything, because it makes you start from a place of negativity (trying to hurt or embarrass someone with your success), rather than starting from positivity. All greatness is harnessed within, not from external forces.
Great post, girly!
I totally agree. You can’t put your destiny in the hands and at the whims of others. Not a good look.
Great piece.
This is a great article. It is so on point and very true. Thank you for this.
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Marian
Great piece very motivational wow
I so needed this thanks!!!
Haters are the thing of the past-
It’s time to be our own cheerleader!
Great post, girlie.