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He’s wack.
Thanks for your comment niks59 but can you give more feedback about why you think me or the show or the conversation is “wack?”
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I really enjoyed these video clips (this one and the past ones featured on Clutch). Look forward to the next one!!!!
What makes him wack? I’m a female and I actually appreciate the commentary that these brothers are dishing out. What sister wouldn’t want to know what is on a brothers mind. I have actually watched come of his other videos and they all makes sense. Niks59 sounds like one of those salty sisers with no man.
Niks59 sounds like a HATER!!! This video was good and insightful. It can be hard to know what is on the mind of the opposite sex, and I appreciate Paul bringing this cloudy subject ot light for us females. Keep up the good work!
I think people should refrain from criticizing if they cannot find a way to be constructive. I like this video series. I appreciate the fact that these men can come together and discuss dating and relationships in an intelligent and practical manner without resorting to misogyny or insults. I’m looking forward to part 3.
The only thing that threw me off was when he called Jill Scott “overweight.” It seems base to describe woman with her poise, charisma, and talent with such an unflattering term.
Jill Scott isn’t skinny either and to try to define her weight through vague meaningless words like “curvy” is just as unflattering than calling her overweight.
In an honest man to man conversation like the one in the video, while the men are civil in expressing their taste in women, they should also be allowed to state the facts.
I don’t get it…Jill Scott IS considered to be overweight…so am I. Paul said nothing that isn’t common knowledge or offensive.
I love his videos and think they bring a fresh look to dealing with relationships for the opposite sex.
I love love this clip and plan on looking at the other clips.Finally a glimpse of some honest dialogue whats not to like.
I don’t get what is revolutionary about this video? when is the visual EVER NOT THE FIRST THING WE LOOK AT. Including WOMEN! lol FIRST THING I SEE IN A MAN IS HIS FACE AND BODY THEN CLOTHES. Because i don’t know anything else about you. But again, it may not be the most important etc. But really again….these guys aren’t saying anything we don’t already know about sexual attraction.
Hi cat. I sorta kinda agree with your comment about the comments being common knowledge but I don’t think the goal of the videos are to appear to be revolutionary. If you follow this guy and watch the other videos, you’ll quickly realize he’s addressing a lot of other issues with respect to relationships. This is just one video. I personally think the dialouge is necessary because believe it or not, there are some sisters that aren’t as savvy as you are when it comes to men. They are the ones that can benefit from listening to this brother. I found this link. check out the other vidoes.
http://www.youtube.com/user/OneDegreeFromMe?feature=mhw4
I find it ironic that the man who talks the loudest about not liking a woman who is overweight, appears to be overweight himself. But he is entitled to have his preferences.
Hey, but let a FAT WHITE CHICK walk through there…see if he won’t jump!! These Negroes make me sick.
I appreciate the willingness of the men shown in this clip to be honest and open about their perspectives on relationships with women. My comment is in regards to the closing thoughts of the clip.
One thing that I would like for us–as society–to consider is this notion of “wifeing” a woman. The point of departure for this “to do” or “no to do” philosophy assumes that all women want to be wifed up and that it is an ideal to which all women aspire. I personally know women who enjoy having just as many non-serious and free loving relationships as I do men who “aren’t looking for anything serious.” I think that what really lies at the heart of this terminology of “wifey” is that for women “playing wifey” and being treated like wifey really means reciprocity. It means getting as much as you are giving. And if this is the case, I think it best if we stop referring to reciprocity as “wifeing” someone. What is so hard about reciprocating without attaching juvenile words that draw upon legally binding relationships between men and women. A woman should not have to be considered “wifey” to be taken seriously. What does the term “wifey” do for men? Please share if you have any thoughts.
In addition, let us consider why heterosexual women don’t run around using the term “hubby.” Women don’t use it because men are not assumed to want to be married in the same way that it is assumed that this is a woman’s lifelong dream. (This is in no way a slight to any woman who aspires to be some man’s wife, but I would like us to consider that this is not something that ALL women want)..Could you imagine? “Girl, this one right here is hubby…I’m about to hubby him up!” It just sounds plain silly. And to me, it sounds just as silly for heterosexual men to use the term “wifey.”
Just some discourse analysis to think about. Thank you for allowing me to share.
In peace.
Profound analysis Tiffany!
I remember my mother using the term “hubby” as a term of endearment for my father-who was her actual husband. When and why did the terms “wifey” and “hubby” begin to be used to describe single/un-married people?