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This is so sad. I know this happens, but to see and hear this makes my heart hurt..
I watched it when it first came on, I am shocked that this goes on in this country alone, still.
I understand how they get the notion that society does not treat dark skinned people the same as light skinned people because I find it to be true in some ways and in some instances. But these ladies are just as wrong as society is for not embracing who they are and standing up to say, ” I am beautiful, and I deserve to be treated equal, as it relates to my lighter skinned brothers and sisters”. And as far as the men goes, I think that obviously, they messing around with the wrong ones to feel like you need to be lighter for a man. I am brown skinned, and I tell my fiance all the time that I love my summertime skin. It gets about two shades darker. Ladies, dark skin is absolutely beautiful, as well as lighter skin tones. So as much as what these ladies are saying has truth, lets embrace our individual beauty and love ourself as is. Make it a point to keep your skin, hair, body, mind, and spirituality healthy, but Its more than looks. Showcase your intelligence, and talents, as well as the inner and outer beauty. Forget what “the world” THINKS, and just do you.
I had no idea people really did this, its stupid and people should just love themselves for who they are. Who cares about dark skin or light skin black is black and people should be proud. I feel so sorry for their kids, its a shame.
I saw this episode and the women who bleached their children are off their rocker. This show is a great example of generation curses that plague families no matter what skin color you have.
A lot of Black people are so damaged…this is so pathetic. How angry and sad these black females are.
I feel sorry for there children. They talk about stereotypes and the negativity of being dark, but let me say
that no matter how light you are and may get, some people are going to think negative about you.
To some folks, my sad and mixed-up self-hating sistas…you are always going to be NIGGERS whether
you are the darkest black tones or the light almost white/pink tones. You already think very little of yourself
so it doesn’t matter what others think of you. You all need healing from within your souls and minds.
This sadness of dark vs. light skin also happens in other cultures and races of people. It’s so ugly!
I agree with what Tyra stated at the end about the issue being deeper than skin color. While skin color is linked to their pain, I’m thinking as I’m watching this video if they were able to get their skin as light as they’d like, there would be some other issue to arise that they’d feel the need to fix in just as extreme a way due to what’s going on internally. I went throught some of the same things that they’ve stated and yet it only produced a love for my skin color as well as hair texture because of it.
It was like a given dark skin is ugly growing up so it was what EVERYONE said, not just those ligther than us. Well one day it dawned on me that if a dark skin person is said to be pretty she’d have to look like the young lady who stated she received such comments, you’re pretty to be dark skin. I thought to myself how bogus and especially in light of the fact that you could be as light as you want to be and busted and will be considered beautiful simply on skin color. I began to examine all of the dark skin people I’d encounter and totally changed the way I saw them and myself.
We as people period not just black people but as people need to understand what went down historically and how our opinions are largely shaped not by what we see in people but what we’re taught about them. It would totally change the way we view ourselves as well as others.
I couldn’t belive what i just watched. I’m a very dark girl form east africa and i live in a country full of white people. I’m also the darkest in my family. All my life i’ve been the darkest and people around me make sure i never forget it. It used to bother me alot until i realized that i’m perfect the way i am. I realized that light is not the right skin color because humans come in all colors and shades.
I feel so sorry for the kids who are bleached by their mother. They now know that to be accepted they have to be light skined and the fact is no matter how light they are they will always be afro americans.
I hope they’ll grow up and realize that skin color doesn’t matter as long as you are proud of who you are and.
That lady who stopped bleaching herself Geraldine called it: it depends on how you carry yourself.
And I also agree with Tyra that it’s a small segment of the population that goes to extreme measures – anorexia, skin bleaching etc. To a certain extent it boils down to insecurity issues, I hope these chicks find the peace within that they are searching for.
im only 1 min and 40 sec in and i dont know if i can watch this, it looks painful
I feel like crying myself. It’s so sad and I cannot believe this is where we are today as a Black community. LaTosha can make all the excuses she wants, but that is a form of child abuse. And those boys, who are very handsome, will have very low self esteem as they grow older. Her uncomfortable laugh gives it away her hurt and confusion.
This is horrible! Man, self-hate is powerful……
Wow if somebody wants to do that to themselves then more power to them but I dont believe someone would give their kids a complex like that.
I’m truly sad about it!!!! THINGS like dat shOuldn’t happen! NEVER EVER! but I’m nOt mad at those ppl doing dis,cuz we gotta understand why they do it.And when you do yOu understand dat its nOt their faults!!!! NOOT AT ALL! it’s da society’s faults! its just becuz sOme ppl can’t help hating On em just cuz they R darker.I understand what they r going through (truly) but plizz.when u r light skin,U R BLACK!!!! so racist ppl stOp dat
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I think that what we are forgetting here is most times its black people who look down on really dark skinned black people and thats sad.
I can tell you one thing, Im a dark skinned sista and guess who I married, a white man who loves my dark skin! Brothers growing up always wanted the light skinned girls and always ignore or made fun of me. One day I realized white men were attracted to me even though I am dark skinned, I was confused. Why would a white man be attracted to me when a black man was not. So I started dating white men who treated me like a black men never did. Years later I married the most wonderful man in the world and had 3 children, a white man.
Black people are very guilty of looking down on darker skinned Blacks and that is sad. But it is also a direct result of letting mainstream America tell us what is beautiful.
I think that there are some inequalities between light skin and dark skin people. But at the end of the day you are how you see yourself. How you see yourself is more important than any view of you that someone else may have. What if Oprah said “oh well I’m dark skinned, with a wide nose and big lips, and kinky hair, I’ll never make it on TV”, well she wouldn’t of been as successful. However she did not let those prejudices in society hold her down, and today she is more powerful than any Black woman in America, light or dark.
I am dark skinned and loving it. I’m African American and growing up my father told me to have pride in my African heritage, when I was like 8 he was telling me that Africa had all these Kingdoms and riches. He told me that Africans were the first man to walk this Earth and that me me feel proud to be of African descent. My mother thought that lighter women were prettier, but I don’t prescribe to her way of thinking because of the pride my father instilled in me.
I really don’t think there are that many people bleaching their skin. I live in DC and I see successful Blacks of all complexions and many of them are dark skinned, so its hard for me to buy into this thing that light skin people are more successful.
Tyra is exploiting the issue for ratings, when she should really get to the root of the problem and talk about the racial prejudices and injustices, stemming back from slavery, that have caused this. She should tell people how in America whites used racism as propaganda to attempt to justify their barbaric practice of slavery, plain and simple. They used a similar system to dominate India during colonialism.
People need to rise above the B.S., life is sooo much better when you do!!!
my mother is what is called redbone and married a very dark man resulting in my birth, her sisters married light skinned men. we are from a large family so all my cousins were light skinned, we were always called names beginning with black, it did have a profound effect on my sisters and i wonder if subconsciously it affected me. is it perchance my daughter is extremely bright, was i trying to avoid my children being called names. and to the person who says we do this to ourselves, i have to say this is the horrible legacy and the destruction of a people through slavery, this is not a generational curse, our people were fed and could see that lighter appeared to be better. television and movies perpetuated it, when you look at old movies it is always the light skinned woman who is nice and the darker skinned person is the villian, so there is a lot to contribute to this. our job is to educate our children about this and give them a healthy self esteem, i have always told my daughter that i love the color green on my skin, just to let her know there is nothing wrong with being dark as i am.
I am a dark skinned woman who happens to be very attractive and I can honestly say that I never ran into problems growing up or dating because of my complexion. A man can smell an insecure woman from a mile away ad if you give off the vibe that you a uncomfortable in your own skin nobody will approach you! If you go to a job inteveiw acting all insecure, 9 times out of 10, you wont be hired.
The root of skin tone politics stem from the days of slavery when the light skinned slaves stayed in side while the dark skinned slaves worked in the sun. In some parts of Africa, where the Europeans decided to return the power back to the native people, they turned the power over to those that possessed more of a likeness to them. This means they were slim with longer limbs and necks and they were also lighter in complexion with smaller lips and thinner noses! This gave blacks the feeling that not only are we inferior to or white counterparts, but if you are dark skinned, to are inferior to your light skinned black counterparts as well! This notion was not only adopted by BLACKS in America but it was also adopted by many countries in Africa as well as Jamaica, and a few other Caribbean island. Unfortunately enough , we are fooled into believing that blacks are the only ones that suffer from these Color Line insecurities! Our EAST INDIAN people do as well! What we share in common with them is: they have also been infiltrated by European colonization and enslavement! Therefore, sharing the same beliefs of inferiorty to whites, dark skinned Indian men and women also bleach their skins to look more European. To this day, darker Indian women have a much harder time finding husbands than their light skinned counterparts. East Indians come in may different shades just like Africans and the Europeans has done a great job at teaching us how to be ashamed of this when we should be embracing it!
Anyways, I have always been a confident chocolate sister. I never had trouble getting any job that I was qualified for, I am a college graduate with a bachelors degree. I have also dabbled in modeling, and acting and have been hired for these jobs by mostly whites. I walk down the streets of NYC and I get attention from men of all races and complexions so my skin ain’t stoppin’ me! Why let it stop you?
BE STRONG AND BE CONFIDENT!
Oh yeah ……………. I forgot to mention, I am a proud African- Carribean woman!
Caribbean that is!
I wish and hope that one day, Tyra will discuss how this issue is not only a problem amongst African Americans but also in the Hispanic, Asian and East Indian commmunities. As ignorant as the entire notion is, it’s deeply embedded in so many people that it will forever remain an issue, unfortunately.
Its so sad that women of colour still view their own skin so negatively. What is even sadder is that some women directly pass that negativity down to their own children by actively bleaching their skin and telling them the lies they have heard all their lives about lighter skin being better. WHAT IS HAPPENING?!!? Why anyone would encourage this in their own children instead of instilling confidence and self love is beyond me.
Oh yeah! There is a product widely used in countries like Philippines, Japan etc….. that comes either in the injectable form or pill form. Look it up on google just type in “injectable skin whitening with Glutathione” I could not believe it! There are all kinds of commercial videos with these asian women smiling and glowing as though they just found the fountain of eternal life! Ha Ha! Those dead white guys got us all in frenzy to look like them! I dont think they phased our ancestors as much as they are phasing some of us today. Such a shame!
Horrified to see this happens in the US.
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Keena, it’s a pleasure to read you. I come from the Carribbean too, and i can write the same thing than you. I’m a dark skin woman and i have NO problem with men too. I have the same success than my lighters friends and we all don’t give a danm about skin colour. We are who we are. And we’re all beautiful in our own way. I understand the pain of this woman ’cause i know that it’s a society fact. So I don’t judge them, but i feel very sad to see woman suffer and hate themselves like this. You’re right, we all have te try to be more confident. It’s the key.
I am light-skinned and I think that I have been given the same opportunities as any other colored african american. But what is so funny is that although they would like to be light-skinned, still doesnt not change the fact that they are african american, and will still go through tough times. They think that men are color struck, that is not the case. But in the case that they are, when you decide to have children with them and they see that the baby turned out darker than usual because you were dark skinned, will only make them leave you faster because you were not upfront and honest with them. I wish that I could be darker just because of the side-effects of being lighter, such as sun burned. When I would have to go out in the street I would have to put on sunblock because my skin is so sensitive to sun light. I didnt want to change colors to make me beautiful but because of the side effects of sun burn.
Everyone always has so much to say but never realize or ask the real truth. If I wanna bleach my skin or enhance my beauty and tell the world it does not mean I dont love myself or Im crying for help. We all like to enhance our beauty it is why we as women go to beauty supplies and salons for all u weave and perm wearing people in the world including me. Check ur own closets b4 u start judging others cause what ur hiding is what ur insecure about at least I have the nerve to say it in public and be proud.
This just doesn’t happen in America with Black folks. It happens every where. Brown people from India have an issue with dark skinned girls. Every guys mother back there is looking for a white or very fair skinned girl for them. Many girls end up single for most of their lives and are shunned from public because of this issue. Unless that girl has low moral values and is ready to sleep with the guy and get pregnant, there’s not a whole lot that girl can do to get married. Guys will be ready to be “friends” with dark skinned girls but not many of them want to marry them.
Ok I think this is ridiculous. True, these women ont he show have problems.
Not everyone who likes lighter skin has “self hate issues” Just like white people tan and black girls have blonde weaves with green eye contacts..nobody says anything to them!!! Some people LIKE LIGHTER SKIN..IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SOCIETY!! IF U CHECK THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO BEFORE THE AGE OF THE “MEDIA”light skin was seen as a sign of beauty.
Also, not all skin lightening creams contain mercury or hydroquinine..I know of a line that doesnt use harmful chemicals and it does get u lighter.
Anotehr point i want to make is There are many non whites who have skin discoloration(which are areas of the body that are eseveral shades darker then the original skin color), so they lighten them using creams. SO WHAT?
True society does hold light skin people higher up and true these women do have issues…but to say that every person who likes lighter skin and wants to achieve that is a “self hater” is ridiculous!
this is something manifested soo deep within human beings.
THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO THINK LIGHT SKIN IS MORE BEAUTIFUL!! SO WHAT? SUE THEM!
What can I say? these women are simply alienated!!!! look like ghosts, look like pins : that is beauty now!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that make me laughing!
but tyra is light brown she is not a redbone y do she keep putting herself in the lite category she did that last time.some of the girls on the stage on the left is the same complexion as her