From The BVX — There’s a big difference between actually being in a relationship and just thinking you’re in one. If there’s any confusion as to which one you’re in, chances are you’re experiencing the latter. But the real way to tell is if the other person is willing to claim you.
Look at how Nelly denied ever dating singer Ashanti during a recent radio interview. Despite photos of themcuddled up on the beach and walking hand in hand at T.I. and Tiny’s wedding this past August, it was clear that they were just “friends.” And if there were any other doubts, Ashanti told BET.com last week, “I never said I was his girl. I never quote, unquote, ‘claimed him.’ I never said we were an item and neither has he, so there you have it.”
I’ve always had a thing for Ashanti and now even more so. The average woman in her situation would have probably gone off the handle and called dude out his name, but here’s an example of a real down-ass chick. Clearly, Nelly and Ashanti had a conversation about the extent of their dealings with each other and are on the exact same page about everything, which is rare when it comes to relationships — platonic or romantic — between men and women.
Whether Nelly and Ashanti were “dating,” “kickin’ it,” “chillin'” or just sleeping together is beside the point and none of our business. The issue of someone not “claiming” the other, though, could easily get messy — especially when you’re in the public eye — but as long as the people involved know where things stand and don’t let other folks get in their business that’s all that matters. But that’s where a lot of people mess up.
As much as women like to think that men are natural-born liars, we’re actually pretty honest if you listen to us. I don’t care how much a man might act like he’s in love with a woman, until he actually says it (and means it, of course) he’s not. Still, a lot of women go off what they think as opposed to what they know and wind up getting their feelings hurt.