I was perusing the Colorlines website today when I came across a poem about the haunting nature of painful memories by Beau Sia.

In the poem, “Memory Sucks,” Sia laments the loss of a girlfriend by wishing he could forget every single detail, every moment, every song, every movie, and every joyous occasion they ever shared.

Sia writes, “If I had more pride, I’d burn every photo with a memory in it/If I had less pride, I’d show up with a boom box and play that song  I don’t want to think about right now until the cops came.”

Listening to Sia recount the leftover memories of a failed relationship made me remember a few of my own: my first break up, the songs that still remind me of him, the spot in Brooklyn where we’d used to spend every Saturday night.

Memories can be tricky, and like the song says, “they don’t live like people do…” As much as we’d like to forget some of our most painful recollections, they stick with us. Sometime we are able to push them to the corners of our mind, and others, they come rushing back, bringing the pain, hurt feelings, and anger with them.

But what say you Clutchettes and Gents? What is one memory you wish you could forget?

Let’s talk about it!


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  • Brina

    I would love to forget about the guy that got away…and I’m still trying to this day…three years after I met him, lol. I never got to chill with him again due to distance and such and I’d do anything to ERASE his existence from my head.

    *listening to Carl Thomas*

    • L

      Oh how I can relate, only it’s been 12 years for me and is ongoing. I still see this man although we are both married. I know he’s perfect for me but we are unable to be together and any song from Sade makes my heart break all over again…

  • It’s really hard when we are constantly haunted by the past but there painful memories stop us from making such mistakes in the future. It’s like that movie ‘Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind’ where Jim Carey’s character and Kate Winsletts character erase their memories of each other but keep on falling for each other again and again as they have also erased the pain and those lessons.

    I have some painful memories, mostly from guys who have treated me wrong. If they were erased I would continue to make the same relationship mistake and fall for the same dumb guys.

    • I could not have worded that better myself. I agree with you 100%.

  • O’Phylia

    My father choking me. I just can’t forgive him, and he pretty much refuses to acknowledge it.