Over the weekend Toya Carter, best know for her BET reality show and marriage to Lil’ Wayne, and rapper Memphitz tied the knot in a beautiful ceremony in Atlanta.
The two have been dating since first meeting at T-Pain’s album release party a few years ago, and have been inseparable ever since. From the moment he spotted her, Memphitz said that he knew Toya would be his wife. In the February issue of Sister to Sister Magazine, Memphitz recounted how he was a little intimidated by Toya’s independence.
“I’d be kind of weirded out by Toya a little bit because she’s got all this money. She don’t need me for nothing. All I’ve ever dealt with was girls that need me,” he said.
From Toya’s BET reality show to every interview, TV show, and blog they have ever appeared in Toya and Memphitz look head-over-heels in love. Seeing pictures of their reception hit the web made me wonder:
Is marriage back en vogue for young, Black women?
For years we’ve been beat over the head with the idea that Black women don’t get married, but most of us knew better. In the past two years I’ve been to at least a half-dozen weddings, and received just as many “save the date” cards. So despite the media’s meme that Black women are doomed to be single, we find love, and jump the broom like everyone else.
Lately, Black celeb couples have been “making it official,” despite our society’s propensity to downplay marriage. Despite declining marriage rates across the board, young Black women are finding mates and settling down on their own terms. From Keyshia Cole and her hubby Daniel Gibson, to Monica and NBA star Shannon Brown, young Black girls seeing their favorite artists do more than just rock a stage show, they are seeing them fully commit to love.
Could stars like Monica, Alicia Keys, Keyshia Cole, Beyonce, and Toya inspire more black women (and men) to jump the broom? You tell us!
*shout out to Necole Bitchie for the pics!