In a recent interview with Essence.com, model Jessica White spoke about her romantic dealings with men in the past and how it’s clouded her judgment. White, who has been linked with some of Hollywood’s hottest bachelors such as Sean Penn, footballer Terrell Owens, Kerry Rhodes, and even Usher says she’s now celibate.
I made a vow to God last year, after so many letdowns and the relationship with my ex, and I knew I really didn’t want to continue making the same mistakes anymore. So I started questioning myself and thought about what I could do to improve me. I reached a place of spirituality where I felt I really needed to concentrate on my relationship with God and preserve myself.
Women nowadays, we connect physically too soon without actually getting to know the person. If you don’t actually give this person your body and then they let you down, there really isn’t a great disappointment; not like it would be if you have already connected physically. I started going on that journey, and I thought to myself, you know what, the next man that I give my body to will be the man that God brought into my life.
I never said that I’m going to wait until marriage. I said it would be a man that I actually know is going to put a ring on my finger. It’s just about me connecting with God and God confirming that this is the man he has created for me. I’m a realist about it. People took that out of context. I said the next man that I sleep with hopefully will be my husband. That’s what I said and I meant that.
I’m in love with somebody now and I don’t connect with them physically. Who knows if it’s going to go to marriage? We have to get over the physical aspect, you know? A lot of people fall in love because you’re sharing your body with someone. And sometimes you get it twisted and you think that that’s real love.
While her aims are admirable, I always feel some type of way when people make generalizations about the behaviors of women. Although I’m sure some women sleep with men before they are able to emotionally handle it, plenty of others do not.
Moreover, imposing artificial rules such as not waiting for marriage, but until you’ll know that hopefully he’ll put a ring on it, as White suggests, still sounds a little strange. But hey, if she’s likes it, then I love it.