Over the past few months I’ve been on my fair share of first dates. Some have been extremely fun, while others, well…let’s just say dude didn’t warrant a call back. At any rate, after the dinner has been eaten, drinks have been drained, dessert shared, and jokes finished, it all boils down to the end of the date. That awkward point where he walks you to your car or your door and you try to prepare yourself for what may be coming next…

A kiss.

Unlike some women, I don’t have a hard and fast rule about kissing on the first date. I’ve had some dates where I’ve deliciously made out with my companion, and others where we said goodnight by way of an awkward will-we-won’t-we hug. For me, it just depends. And despite my feminist leanings, I typically defer to the man.

Call it letting a man be a man or just straight up insecurity, but I’ve never initiated a first date kiss. Sure I try to give off signs—staring at his lips and smiling, waiting a bit longer at my door, brushing my hand across his face—but I’ve never leaned in to kiss a dude first. Never.

But what about you Clutchettes and Gents…do you kiss on the first date? If so, who makes the first move?

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  • OSHH

    Not on the first date.

  • African Mami

    It’s all about the CHEMISTRY. I do not see the big deal!

  • cupcakes and shiraz

    I don’t. I prefer the guy to initiate the kiss. That said, if the chemistry is there, I give him hints. LOL

  • mztonichilds

    I have kissed on the date, but it’s all in how I vibe and connect with a guy. I went on a date recently where I was completely turned off by everything he did. The way he dressed, his convo, his bragging.. So at the end of the date, he got a shoulder hug and a dueces.

  • Ew No

    what if he has herpes!