Flirting is an age old art and isn’t limited to situations in which one is attempting to bait a potential mate; people flirt to get out of parking tickets, to get into the club, to curry favor at work…some flirt simply because its a day ending in “Y”.
While flirting is not always a sign that someone is seriously attracted to or interested in their target, a sticky situation can arise when one of the people involved in the exchange is attached. What works for one couple may cause a big blowout for another; its wise that you discuss your limitations with your sweetie and get some clarity on what the two of you find to be appropriate behavior with other men or women before it becomes an issue. If your man was a notorious flirt when you met him, its unlikely that he’ll turn his charm all the way off; however, if he understands your feelings on the matter, he can take it down to a respectable, harmless level. Do understand that even the sweetie who tells you that they trust you and aren’t concerned about you flirting with other folks may feel entirely different if they happen upon a BBM convo with a bunch of winking smileys and the word “cutie”.
Show your mate the respect you would want in return. If you couldn’t handle him or her spitting game on other people, then keep your own flirting eye level: innocent, G-rated, no overtly sexual undertones. Not only do you show your boo that you care, you let others know that you take your commitment seriously and that you don’t wish to invite any sort of third party.
Where do you stand, Clutch Fam? Is flirting appropriate for someone who has a partner? How deep can it go? Is it okay to flirt with a coworker while on the clock, but crossing a line when the flirtation takes place via text message? Is it cool to have a little banter with someone with whom you’d never actually be interested in, but inappropriate to mack on a certified honey when you have one at home? Speak to us!