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When it comes to weddings most women have a distinct vision.  They’ve carried this vision with them since they were 5-years-old dancing around their room with a pillowcase on their heads as a veil.  So naturally when the ‘big day’ finally arrives for real, women (and in some cases men) go hard in the paint to make sure this vision comes to life.  But should they?  Most stats on marriage say that there is at least a 50/50 chance of divorce, and from celebrities to every day people, these stats seem to get proven true time and time again.  For example, photos have recently surfaced of Basketball Wives star Jennifer Williams’ wedding to former NBA baller Eric Williams.  The lavishly pink wedding was created by celebrity wedding planner Diann Valentine and included a custom dress, custom tabletops for the reception, the posh backdrop of The One and Only Ocean Club on Paradise Island in the Bahamas and even fireworks.  The couple looked happy and in love, however that was then.  Now, they’re headed for divorce court, with Jennifer displaying a decapitated Eric on a divorce party cake and Eric throwing drinks in Jennifer’s face to “cast out demons.”

Damn homie, it was all good just a week ago?!

Granted the majority of us don’t have hundreds of thousands to spend on a wedding like Jennifer and Eric, but we still go out of our way to spend money we don’t truly have just to create the ‘perfect day’ for a happily ever after that may not last.  Now I’m not saying that you should plan your wedding on the cheap assuming that it will fail, but knowing the stats and seeing first hand in our own lives how marriages can play out, does it make sense to have a big budget wedding that you may still be paying off if a divorce comes?

Does it make sense to spend a fortune on a marriage that may not last?  Can you be just as happy with a less expensive wedding?  What else could you spend the money on that would better serve the marriage?

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  • Tami

    You should spend whatever you want on your wedding as long as you can afford it. I wouldn’t finance a wedding & still be paying on it years later. That doesn’t make sense especially when you are still living in an apartment. I would rather buy a house or get a car. A wedding is only for one day. It is a celebration and I don’t one should go into getting married thinking they are going to get a divorce. The marriage is the real work. I got married in Barbados…Just me & my ex-husband. Didn’t cost us over $3000. Had some good years & some bad…Now it’s over & had nothing to do with the price of the wedding.

  • Sia

    I’m planning on having a DIY wedding. Small and intimate, while spending the majority of my money on the reception for great music and food. I don’t believe in spending extravagant amounts of money on one day, but to each his own. I would rather be debt free!

  • Isis

    Sure if you can afford it. Not spending a lot of money doesn’t guarantee that the marriage will work.

  • keisha brown

    When it comes to weddings most women have a distinct vision. They’ve carried this vision with them since they were 5-years-old dancing around their room with a pillowcase on their heads as a veil.

    This statement bothers me. Because it’s not true. Considering weddings is about 50% of the business I do, I can say most brides have no idea on how the day will shape until they start buying books/mags once they are engaged.

    Did many little girls play with Barbies, marry their brothers GI Joe dolls to her? Sure. But most women (for many reasons) dont carry that for 20+ yrs. I was engaged in 2008 before I became an event/wedding planner. When/if the moment comes again – my perspective, the person who proposed and place Im in my life will probably lead to completely different vision than I had many moons ago.

    Please let go of this stereotype.
    Thanks.