From Frugivore

There’s no doubt about it, even after decades in the entertainment business Janet Jackson is still one of the hottest in the game…with an amazing body to match! Recently Janet, who is also the new spokesperson for NutriSystem, stopped by Good Morning America to chat and revealed most of her insecurities with her body stemmed from things she went through as a young child. Janet said her brother Michael would poke fun at her “big butt” and during her first season acting on Good Times, which she began when she was only 10 years old, wardrobe stylists felt her body was developing too soon and flattened her chest by binding it, the next season, they told her to lose weight. Here she is, a 10-year-old girl being told that there is something wrong with her body and now as an adult, she is still having to fight to realize that there isn’t.

Many of us did not grow up in the spotlight with the pressures that come from celebrity as Janet Jackson did, but the pressure to look good and fit society’s ideal standard of beauty still torments many of us everyday.

If it’s not the media telling us we should weigh this much, look this way and feel shame for not owning the latest ‘it’ item, then it’s our friends and family critiquing everything we put in our mouths or pinching our sides when they notice the pesky 5lbs we gained over the holidays. With the pressures of beauty coming from all sides it’s no wonder that many young girls grow up to be women who hate themselves.

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  • B.Payne

    1. Flat Booty – Check
    2. High “Rihanna” forehead – Check
    3. Small ears – Check
    4. Change my body flaws – Never in a million years!

  • whilome

    Even when my body was at its most ideal–I’m talking “everybody in the room says whoa”, I found something ELSE to be insecure about it. It’s human nature.
    I will say that I’m grateful to be in a culture that doesn’t try to mold me in the mainstream notion of what being beautiful is. I can be heavy and still get dap from brothas or be thin and get, “hey Queen”s as well.

    Miss Janet is doing a cross-promotional thing with NutraSystem and her new book, so she’s talking about her insecurities (again) to sell something. We need to remember that that’s how the beauty and weightloss industries work: they WANT you to feel bad about yourself so you can buy what they are selling.

    So, instead of listing our flaws…I’d like to know what you LOVE about your body.

    I’ll start: I got some tig ol’ bitties that bring all the boys to the yard:-)

    • I have the most voluptuous thighs and hips that’ll make anybody do a double take :) and that are somewhat difficult to squeeze into jeans

    • Arcy

      I love my legs! They’re super long and toned, a result of riding my bike two miles uphill errday :)

    • African Mami

      @ Arcy,

      I got long legs too! They almost want to reach heaven before my soul does! I’ll try the bike thing!!!!!!!! Thanks for the tip!

  • CD86

    “…It’s our friends and family critiquing everything we put in our mouths or pinching our sides when they notice the pesky 5lbs we gained over the holidays.”

    I have an athletic shape, but my mother, grandmother and now my sister seem to think my weight gain now qualifies me as ‘fat’ when I am actually in the acceptable weight range for my age and height. When I was younger, the doctor would always tell me that I was underweight. I was always thin and as I have grown older (I am 25), it’s only natural that I have put on a few pounds. A few months ago my grandmother said, “You don’t mind being that big?” Recently she asked me what size shirt I wear and when I told her she seemed surprised and stated that she thought I wore a large. WTF. My weight mostly comes from my thighs and my butt, not my upper body.

    On the other hand, I had a former male coworker tell me that I finally look like a woman because I gained weight. Like, what the fuck, just can’t win.

    I do wish my breasts were a little bigger only because certain clothes don’t fit well when there is a small breast size.

    I’ve also always had issues with my hair. When I was younger kids made fun of me for having short hair and I was always being told how I should wear it. Even now I still get comments that make me cringe. Like, I have been told by other people that I SHOULD wear my hair out or do whatever it is that they would like to see with it. I stopped getting relaxers in 2007 and since then have just gone natural. I don’t wear my hair in any natural styles because I just don’t feel like hearing people’s comments. Everything I do with myself is always under scrutiny by other people. It’s as if they can only be happy when you fit into what they like…

    • I have experienced the EXACT same thing. As a kid, I was teased for being what others considered too skinny, I was tall and lanky. I used to wish I could be thicker like some of the other “promiscuous” girls; then in high school, I hated my thick thighs and muscular body, I was an athlete; and now after having a baby, I have my family telling me “You gaining weight aren’t you?” and men telling me “You done got thick, it looks good.” It’s like dang, can I please everyone. But now I realize it’s about pleasing myself, not others. Like one commenter posted, we need to recognize what we LOVE about ourselves, and I wish I had small boobs. I wear a 40DD, and HATE them. I want to be a B. But what I’ve learned to appreciate are my thighs, hips, feet, and lips. What do you love? (Oh and I recently went natural too, congrats :) )

  • chanela

    is this a serious question!?!lol all women are insecure. why else are thousands of women a year flocking to plastic surgery offices? men are insecure over their penises and they have penis surgery but they don’t run to surgery the same way women do… i wonder what their secret is???

    btw i think its total BS when women say ” i want ___ surgery for MYSELF!” uhh yeah right! you mean to tell me that if you were on an island all by yourself then you would wake up and decide to stuff coconuts in your chest? yeah… i didn’t think

    • Perverted Alchemist

      The secret with men and our insecurities? It’s simple Chanela. Most of the time we just live with it, continue on in our daily lives and not let it affect us.

      Other men who don’t will probably overcompensate.

      You know the ones who are too short, but drive an SUV?

      Or the guy who whose lacking in “certain areas” (LULZ!!!), but have a lot of money? Yeah him

      Or the guy who is a bully or talks about people constantly, because he might be hiding something? Yeah….

  • c0c0puffz

    I hate my stomach. I’ve had this pooch since I was a baby, thought I would grow out of it. I was scrawny but had a starving kid’s bloated belly.