Recently Andrea Canning of ABC’s “Good Morning America” took a look at booming business of kiddie salons. She delved into the world of little girls getting big girls treatments, from luxe mani/pedis, to blowouts and even waxing…down there. Yes ladies and gents, these little girls, who barely have breasts, were being taken to the spa by their parents to get their barely there pubic hairs waxed. Really? Even more disturbing was the fact that the mothers justified the experience by declaring “It’s just part of hygiene!”
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind little girls going to a salon to get their hair washed, I did, and I don’t think getting a bubble gum pink mani/pedi is going to scar them for life. However, when you start plucking eyebrows and encouraging bikini waxes, Houston, we have a problem. Fortunately or unfortunately beauty is an important part of our society’s culture. No matter how we try to escape it, fight it or deny it, people do judge us on appearances, but should the pressures of beauty be of concern to an 11-year-old? As it is we already have grown women with more sense and life experience, starving themselves and mortgaging their lives away for a few nips and tucks. If grown women can fall victim to the pressures, what will stop our girls from developing these same insecurities? What will stop the cycle? We rant and rave about protecting our children from pedophiles, but then we sexualize their image by taking them to be waxed? Who is even looking down there on a 9-year old except for a pervert? And if it’s a pervert that’s looking, why in the entire hell would you tidy up the area and make it more appealing?
It boggles my mind that in a country full of resources we can’t seem to find a way to encourage beauty in our girls, and women, without resorting to extremes. Why can’t little girls be beautiful as is with a little pink nail polish on top? Why is it they are only beautiful if they have $100 blowouts, arched brows and bikini waxes? A little pampering never hurt anyone, but there has to be a line in the sand. There has to be a point when you stop pushing and/or encouraging adult behaviors onto your children and say this is too much. I believe that children should be allowed to be children. It’s a fleeting moment in time that as the years go on you barely get to remember. They should be allowed to have fun and enjoy it without worrying about whether or not stray hairs are showing. I’m not a parent yet, but I’m drawing my line in the sand from now. If my daughter wants to feel beautiful I’m going to make sure she knows very early on that no kiddie spa is necessary, all she needs is a mirror and her smile.
Would you take your daughter to a kiddie spa? Is waxing okay for young girls? How young is too young for pampering?
– Danielle Pointdujour