Recently, Kelly Rowland snagged the January 2012 cover of Marie Claire UK. In the feature article, the interviewer asked Kelly if she feels pressured to settle down and have some babies now that her superstar bestie, Beyonce, is expecting her first child.
Kelly, who’s been all about her career lately, says she’d like kids one day…just not now.
“No. I will babysit and change a diaper or two, and then give it back,” Kelly said of Bey’s baby. “I do want kids, but every time I think about a little person growing inside of me and getting bigger and bigger and then having to come out…. a watermelon coming out of something the size of a lemon is insane to me.”
What I found most interesting about this interview excerpt was not Kelly’s apprehension about childbirth, but rather the interviewer’s assumption that most women–no matter how focused on their careers–ultimately want to be mothers and wives.
I get it. Since we are born women are taught that we are nurtures and socialized to be mothers. We’re often tasked with taking care of younger siblings or cousins, helping out with housework, and grow up hearing stories that one day our prince will come.
However, while many of us do want to get married and start families, these days, most of us just want to live and build our lives before we settle down. And yet…most women–famous or not–are STILL hit with the “so…when are you going to get married and have babies?” question. I don’t hear people constantly asking Kanye West or Trey Songz if they want to settle down anytime soon. No, they get to focus on their careers, but women must always contend with the question.
But…why won’t people just let us be great?
Talk to me Clutchettes. Have you been asked when you’re going to settle down?