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It seems like people are still debating whether or not Chris Brown should have been allowed to triumphantly return to the scene of the crime the Grammys.

While many in the Twitterverse were both appalled he was allowed to perform (twice!) and thrilled to see him on the show, after winning a golden statue, Breezy took to Twitter to give his haters a message:

“HATE ALL U WANT BECUZ I GOT A GRAMMY Now! That’s the ultimate FUCK OFF!”

Sensing that perhaps he’d said something wrong, Brown (or his inept PR team) deleted the tweet and replaced it with something a little more humble: “IM BACK SO WATCH MY BaCK as I walk away from all this negativity #teambreezygrammy.”

While many have jumped to Brown’s defense, I can’t help be continue to give the young pop star the side-eye. Nothing about Brown tells me he’s really learned from the violent incident or even “gets” why people are still ambivalent toward him, despite his immense talent.

Each time the public allows Brown back into the fold it seems he gives us a reason to flinch.

After apologizing for violently beating Rihanna, instead of keeping a low profile, Brown seemed to fly off the handle each time he was asked about that night. Throwing a chair out of the window, getting into a Twitter spats, and disparaging gays marred Chris’ reformed image.

And yes, while it may be unfair to be constantly asked about “the incident,” as a public figure, Brown has to know that this will come up. He can either deal with it maturely, or continue to spaz out–each one either hurting or helping his public image.

But here’s the thing. Our feelings toward Chris Brown aren’t really about Breezy. They speak to a larger message we send our youngsters about relationships, domestic violence, and where we place the blame.

While his story could serve as a true story of redemption, sadly, it’s become yet another example of victim blaming, assuaging relationship violence, and embracing an not-so-apologetic abuser.

Writer Zerlina Maxwell summed up my thoughts perfectly: “When Chris Brown is celebrated as some sort of survivor who pulled himself up from the ruins without the acknowledgment of that 2009 assault, a grave injustice is committed. Yet those who bring up the incident are accused of rehashing ‘old news’ and preventing a young man who deserves another chance from moving on. Brown’s smash records, film roles and successful tours (not to mention rumors that he continues to see ex-girlfriend Rihanna) make it quite clear: he’s not having a hard time moving on at all.  Yet, if that terrible abuse could have at the very least been a lesson for young women and men, that lesson was largely lost to the cult of celebrity worship and our unhealthy tendency to accept and excuse domestic violence.”

What do you think? 

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  • BobDobolina

    @QofN: “You guys are being extremely misandric (anti male.)”

    Since I already explicitly referenced the taboo against male self-defense you go on to mention, and you failed to notice, I don’t think I’m going to lose sleep over this.

    “A man in Texas received zero time in prison after shooting two unarmed buglars that entered his neighbors home.”

    Yeah, you do realize Texas is fucking insane, right? I mean, a little piece of advice: if you ever wind up on trial for assault or excessive use of force, don’t make “well, there was this guy in Texas” part of your defense. It’s not likely to work.

    As for this: “How so? . . . Nevermind that black children suffer most of their abuse at the hands of their largely single mothers and even more insidious is the abuse they suffer at the hands of mommy’s new hunk.”

    Uhhhh, sounds like you’re working through some personal demons here, maybe? Good luck with that, just be careful how much of it you project onto “black women.”

  • Socially Maladjusted

    bobdobolina

    “sounds like you’re working through some personal demons here, maybe? Good luck with that, just be careful how much of it you project onto “black women.”

    chuckles

    nuff said – on that.

    I like how you pointed out that it’s unwise to cherry pick the which trangressions you allow celebrities to rehabilitate, and how that kind of selective vengefulness could easily be applied to persecute and exclude anyone in the public eye whose deeds or mere presence in the celebrity pantheon, are irksome to those with some axe to grind.

    Very perceptive

    and canny.

    With that said, for myself, I’d like to see the entire celebrity class swept away, just another class of of unworthy parasites who prey and look down on the working man and woman in my book.

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