Imagine my surprise when I was checking one of my favorite blogs, MyBrownBaby, and saw this headline: “Too Short Is Too Outrageous in Advising Little Boys to Commit Sexual Assault.” With a title like that I couldn’t help but read the article which had me shaking my head in no time.
Apparently, the folks over at the hip hop magazine XXL thought it fitting to give Bay Area rapper and freaky tales expert himself, Too Short, an advice column for young boys (umm, who thought that was even a good idea?). If that wasn’t bad enough, his advice is aimed at schooling middle and high school boys about “the game” of controlling young girls and getting what they want.
In this particular episode, his third, Too Short basically tells boys how to sexually manipulate (and perhaps even assault) girls by pushing “her up against the wall” and using their fingers to pleasure them. During his “advice” Too Short doesn’t mention that this act should only be done with a willing participant (and that, you know, middle school shouldn’t involve sex acts), he conveniently leaves that essential part out.
He goes on to explain:
“When you get to late middle school, early high school and you start feeling a certain way about the girls… I’m gonna tell you a couple tricks. This is what you do, man. A lot of the boys are going to be running around trying to get kisses from the girls, we’re going way past that. I’m taking you to the hole.
There’s a general area down there, a little spot that girls have that feels really good to them. Don’t kiss them down there yet, that’s later in life. But this is what you do. You push her up against the wall or pull her up against you while you lean on the wall and you take your finger and put a little spit on it and you stick your finger in her underwear and you rub it on there and watch what happens. It’s like magic. You gotta find her spot, they all have a different one, but it’s somewhere in there. Just go for it. When you feel like it becomes a little more moist that’s when you know you’re doing it right.”
XXL has conveniently taken the page with Too Short’s advice column down (but as you see, it still lives on in the web), perhaps sensing how irresponsible his advice was. But I wonder why no one called him out on it while he was making the video, and why no one objected when it was first published on the site?
Is this REALLY what we want to be teaching our boys?