Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe are as close to the perfect black couple as one can get. She’s gorgeous, he is FINE, and they live a quietly successful life with their two children in the suburbs of Atlanta. Outer appearances aside, they also have a great relationship that never makes its way into the gossip pages. The couple sat down with Essence to talk about how they sustain their marriage and keep each other happy. Not surprisingly, communication and putting work into your marriage are at the top of the list of tips, and I couldn’t help but whisper “amen” when I heard what Nicole had to say about being yourself while together:
“As women we pass down a lot of misinformation on how to keep your man or get your man or all those things, and I think it’s really basic. I stopped doing a lot of unnecessary things. Like, he didn’t need me to show my love by organizing his sock drawer. I did a lot of things that he didn’t even notice. He’s not going to notice the new purse and I stopped thinking that he should. But when I cook for him it’s Christmas in my house … I just stopped with all the madness and became very conscious of what he does like, and he’s very conscious of what I like.”
Watch the whole interview below!
Video courtesy of Essence Magazine.