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From Frugivore — The conversation surrounding childhood obesity in America starts with a concerned parent (it’s usually a woman because, you know, guys could care less about diabetes, we live on the edge) who after her child complains about her weight, or even more sinister, looks at her overweight body with contempt, branding the herself as a victim of the easy access refrigerator and cupboard, she and her child become a news story.

Then after the local news affiliate picks up the story because the child can’t walk to school and can’t articulate why she loves to dip her Twinkies in strawberry-flavored milk, we purveyors of morality throw our two cents into the blogosphere and around the office’s water cooler, offering this single mother (you know she a single mother because the news never misses a chance to show how incapable and incompentent women are as heads of households) their sage advice: “She needs to do better … it’s a shame … I bet she’s on Welfare … that’s why we need more men in homes.”

Take for example this story fresh off the Charleston Patch.com presses. A young woman shares her childhood obesity story, which centers around her probably adorable, arbitrarily overweight daughter. She doesn’t want blame anyone, especially not herself, because holding her country’s leaders and cultural disseminators — from Michelle Obama to Tom Menino, Disney World to City Hall — accountable “is all too easy.”

Then on cue, we move into a conversation NO ONE wants to really have, but it’s always a great shit starter: eating disorders. Anorexia, bulimia, bigorexia, pica, and purging are all naughty words for glamorous girls (again, please remember, boys don’t suffer from body image issues; we just create cool words like bodybuilding, emphasis of BUILD, which makes it okay to engage in every single eating disorder — hey, a young man may grow up to be a movie-star governor one day, who am I to judge).

Understanding eating disorders actually means one has to deal with a suffering person extensively for months, years, or maybe even a lifetime, which is way too long to fit inside a hour long A&E Intervention episode. We don’t have time nor do we care that much; it’s all about making sure everyone around knows we’re good people, as long as it doesn’t hit home — like hit our own minds or children’s minds, and especially older people’s minds, which means granny is on the fast track to the assistance living facility.

So good people use the government to solve their problems, begging for a new law to help straighten out and cut the loose ends. More than likely, the conversations begin in academia, where some sterile scholars lecture on the links between childhood obesity and eating disorders.

Hold on, wait, this article actually quotes an expert from none other than Harvard (Obama brownie points):

“Overweight youths are at higher risk than healthy-weight peers for disordered weight-control behaviors and binge eating,” explains Dr. Austin is the director of STRIPED (Strategic Training Initiative for the Prevention of Eating Disorders), based at the Harvard School of Public Health and Children’s Hospital Boston.

Since local and state bureaucrats take their cue from the Obama Administration, who will listen to any advice from an Ivy Leaguer, irrespective of how batty or evil they may be (Larry Summers comes to mind), ideas shoot through the legislature and become laws like this one:

Massachusetts State Rep. Kay Khan, (D-Newton), who chairs the Joint Committee on Children, Families and Persons with Disabilities, raised the profile of eating disorders on March 6 at the State House in coordination with the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA).

[T]he screening tool of Body Mass Index (BMI) was phased in last year in all Massachusetts public schools as a check for obesity.

What?! So, let me get this straight … Parents in Massachusetts allowed the government to start screening their kids in order to tell the parents — who live in the same house as their children — that their kids have an eating disorder and are showing signs of obesity.

(Read the rest at Frugivore)

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  • tmc

    @ ExactlywhatIthink

    I agree with you. I am a single mother and I attend everything my son is involved in. Everything. I work full time, am on the school board and am currently enrolling in school to continue my degree. I have ADD and dyslexia, so organization is a really big issue for me. I included that to say anyone can make time to do things with their kids. My boy and I go for walks, we play b’ball together, etc. Those are times when we can see where their heads are and make sure they know that we are involved in their lives beyond just providing food/shelter/clothing. I think the “I don’t need a man” attitude and the supporting of singleparenthood is ruining our children. We were created to be a family. We as a people would greatly benefit if we would encourage that as much as possible. I know the “there aren’t enough men…” issue can come into play, but it starts at home. With our words to our sons and daughters.
    @mamareese
    I too support my home by myself. I live outside the city and things are more expensive here. I totally agree with providing natural foods to our kids, as the majority of our food is organic/natural. If you don’t have time to enroll/ support your kids in activities, walk with them. Ride bikes, play ball, do yoga like @keepitreal said. Find another family to engage in activities with. It’s so doable.

  • tmc

    @mamareese
    :)

    • mamareese

      @TMC
      Much Love… Ok clearly I must share every detail of my life LOL. My kids are very fit and heathly…and with nice weather we go to our big backyard daily to run and play and the works, we are also members of the local YMCAA. I’m speaking of sports, I have a very demanding job to afford my kids a comforatble life. So my time outside of work it limited.

      Also, all that up top with ya’ll inaccurate stats and quotes being pulled from Google. I take myself and mine out of your equations. All this single mother this and that. Look sometimes it doesn’t work out and sometimes you have to do it on your own. You don’t know these ladies reason for being single so to clump us all into some group of downtrodden ghetto baby making hood rats is just crazy. You should look at the percentage of ladies….some visiting this blog too…that take care of their homes just fine without the tax payers dollar. And how dare you assume that someone is a liberal just because their view is different than yours. Agree to disagree and stop trying to hold folk hostage to your opinion.

  • mamareese

    @Keep it Real says:
    Sweetie there is nothing else going on…..oh only that I’m a real mother and put my kids 1st. I made a choice when I had my kids to do whatever it takes to make sure they have a life without proverty and raise them to do and act better than what they see. This area may not be where I’d prefer to be, however, here my kids are able to have a close relationship with my parents and their father which is a REQUIREMENT for me. I do not let where I live define me….and when they are older we may move on. I just don’t care for how people are treated. So I don’t let folks treat me that way and learn my kids the same.

  • Greg

    “If the 40 years of family court judgments you keep harping on involve divorcing men, and black men are the least likely to marry, then black men most likely wouldn’t be proportionally represented among the men upon which your “40 years of family court judgments” are based.”

    Ooops, missed something. The courts don’t just deal with married people. Pretty dumb to assume in unmarried couples the men are MORE LIKELY to receive custody wouldn’t it?

    “Now why would politicians consider the following actions if WOMEN WERE ACTUALLY SHARING CUSTODY & MEN WEREN’T FIGHTING FOR THEIR RIGHTS???

    South Carolina Senators Consider Bill To Increase Joint Custody Of Kids After Divorces
    (01/03/12)

    • ExactlyWhatIthink

      @SM
      Dont care for your harsh words, but I do agree that single parents should stop blaming the fathers for their shortcomings. If you take on the role of lone parent then do your job. And dont expect men who didnt commit to the mother to commit to the child. Yes, in a perfect world a father should commit to his responsibilities regardless of his commitment to the mother. But in the real world too many fathers are jumping ship. Women have seen this for decades now…our mothers, friends, coworkers have all struggled with single motherhood. Why do women choose to continue this cycle, I dont know. I place this on women because we have to carry the baby and raise the child. So why raise children who we cant afford to feed properly, ensure they have all they need. Also, single mothers are quick to use their single mother status as an excuse for their child’s shortcomings. Enough is enough. Let’s do better and require better for our kids.

  • Socially Maladjusted

    The only single mothers who should be “arrested” are those single mothers who blame their single motherhood on their babydaddies.

    If you’re that type of babymama then you’re a fake because you agree that single motherhood is bad for children.

    Why?

    Well, if you believed you were doing a good job of raising your children you wouldn’t need to deflect the criticism you recieve for being a babymama onto babydaddy.

    You would simply prove your critics wrong by pointing to the good job you’re doing of raising your children. But incompetent single mothers know they’re doing a bad job so they try to hide their incompetence by blaming everyone else for the predicament they’ve created for themselves and their children –

    YOU should be arrested because you’re dishonest, slack lazy, weak and no good for children.

    On otherhand – A good single mother responds to criticism by –

    1) expressing her love for her children
    2) vehemently asserting her competence as a single mother.
    3) being forthright about the difficulties of being a lone parent,
    4) offering creative ideas about what could be done to improve the experience and outcomes for the children of lone parents.

    Notice a theme there?

    That’s right – this ^ single mother isn’t a spiteful b itch who cares more about avoiding heat than she does about her children. She aint taking everyone else down with her.

    Got allota bloody minded “I’m takin em all down with me” type of b itch in the BC.

    You need to shut up . . . . . for the sake of the children. That’s who we care about – NOT your dusty self, which is why we’re letting you off with a warning and a parenting classes order –

    this time.

    LMAO!

    • ExactlyWhatIthink

      @SM
      Dont care for your harsh words, but I do agree that single parents should stop blaming the fathers for their shortcomings. If you take on the role of lone parent then do your job. And dont expect men who didnt commit to the mother to commit to the child. Yes, in a perfect world a father should commit to his responsibilities regardless of his commitment to the mother. But in the real world too many fathers are jumping ship. Women have seen this for decades now…our mothers, friends, coworkers have all struggled with single motherhood. Why do women choose to continue this cycle, I dont know. I place this on women because we have to carry the baby and raise the child. So why raise children who we cant afford to feed properly, ensure they have all they need. Also, single mothers are quick to use their single mother status as an excuse for their child’s shortcomings. Enough is enough. Let’s do better and require better for our kids.

    • Socially Maladjusted

      I don’t agree wth your assumption that women end up as single mothers because the fathers “jump ship”. (Unless you can prove it with FACTS from several checkable sources)

      That is classic BAD SINGLE MOTHER excuse making – blaming her “irresponsibilty” on other people.

      A bit like blaming inadequate welfare for her children’s poor nutrition instead of – GETTING A JOB so she can afford to feed them properly.

      See we can all play the blame game.

      That’s exactly what happens – people look for someone to blame rather than ways to improve the lives of disadvantaged children.

      But the old “feckless father” defense is played out because we know that women become single mothers because they want to be single mothers. Not always for reasons we might understand or agree with, but single motherhood is not imposed on women by anything or anyone but themselves.

      Babymama begin doesn’t when babydaddy allegedly walks out, it starts when you choose have sex, choose not to use contraception, get pregnant and – then choose to have the baby. Those are all babymama choices.

      Right?

      Unless you can prove that women are being coerced at every stage of the becoming a babymama process.

      But who really cares about all that shit anyway – if people don’t wanna get married or be together, who the f uck’s business is it but theirs?

      Should we force people to get married and force them to stay together when they have children?

      Nah – we gotta deal with the only issue that comes out of the question of lone parenthood – how can we best help the children?

      Personally, I care much less about the relationship between the parents than I do about what happens to the kids. I have in my life, dozens of single mothers and unmarried COUPLES whom I love, admire and respect.

      To make an issue out of something as petty as their marital status would be hurtful to them and their children, it would also be DUMB because they’re good people. Far more competent, on a lot less of most things – than me.

      So if you’re about the children then keep it just about the children.