They say you can find out everything you need to know about a person simply by the company that they keep. Does this rule apply to someone you are interested in dating? Do birds of a feather really flock together?

This way of deciding if you want to be with someone has its pros and cons. People do tend to surround themselves with others who are a reflection of them. Then again some people have childhood friends who haven’t necessarily taken the same path in life that they chose, but are still very close due to the amount of time they have known each other. Then there are some people who don’t believe in cutting off others in their lives who are different from them. The saying opposites attract reigns as true for friendships and it does with relationships. I see many friendships where one person is an introvert and the other is an extrovert. They appear to be complete opposites to the outside world, but they have a stronger friendship than most people.

I do believe that if you are friends with someone it means that there are at least a few things that you have in common with the person. Before you dismiss someone because of the company that they keep you should find out exactly what common thoughts or characteristics they share with that person. Judging a book by its cover is always an epic fail.

I have a good girlfriend who recently got engaged to her long time boyfriend. Once when we all went out to a soca party I had a chance to meet the rest of his friends. They were COMPLETELY different from my friend’s boyfriend. She told me that she can’t stand them because of the horrible way that they treat women, but for some reason they were her boyfriend’s closest friends. He also doesn’t agree with the way they treat women, but they all grew up together and share a special bond. If she judged her now fiancé by his group of friends, she wouldn’t have given him the time of day.

You should be aware of the company that the person you are dating keeps, but inquire about the similarities within the friendship before you decide to kick him or her to the curb.

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