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With the release of the movie, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man,”  later this month, the question of how a woman can think like a man has continued to come up and my answer is DON’T.

The way that a person thinks shouldn’t be associated with a particular sex. Common sense and doing what you feel is best for you should be the rule. Gone should be the days of playing games and trying to “figure out” the male psyche is order to try to perpetuate something that is not being true to who you really are.

Don’t try to think like a man or woman, just think like YOU. If you are able to have sex with no strings attached then that is fine and if you can’t have sex without an emotional attachment that is fine too. Societal norms have tried to create a formula for how a woman should think and act, but that formula doesn’t equate to many of us. Yet, the advice of Steve Harvey has many re-thinking their every thought and deed.

I love the movie, “Two Can Play That Game,” because at the end all it really showed was that when it comes to matters of the heart there are no rules. Being honest with yourself is the best way to be… period. Once you know who you are and what you will and will not tolerate then you can enter into a healthy relationship.

Men and women are different for a reason. One shouldn’t try to “think” or “act” like the other in order to gain some sort of acceptance or get what they want. If you follow rules to try to play into what you think the other person wants, then you will ultimately end up unhappy because one can only “act” but so long until their true selves shine through. I love being a woman and most of all I love being ME. The way I think, feel and respond to situations stem from how I was raised and different experiences I went through in my own life. I’m not going to try to mimic the thoughts and actions of the opposite sex in order to play some frivolous mind game. I’m going to think and act in the manner that makes the most sense to me. Whoever likes it great and whoever doesn’t that’s fine as well. Life will still go on.

Tricks are for kids and I am grown. Trying to understand one another is wonderful, but attempting to replicate the thoughts and deeds of the opposite sex just because you don’t want to be alone for the rest of your days is just harmful to the real you trying to bust through all those idiotic rules.

 

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  • Furious Styles

    All the dating advice for both genders exists for one reason only…to contain our anxiety about getting to know someone we didn’t grow up with. We can debate the merits of Harvey’s “advice” all day, but ultimately all books, blogs, and gurus will play to our desire to overcomplicate dating in our heads and simultaneously look for the magic bullet.

    As for the movie, I will screen it when it comes out on DVD with friends and clown it on some “Black Mystery Science Theater” isht.

  • Elle

    the problem is people try to understand the opposite sex as a whole without trying to understand the SPECIFIC person they’re pursuing, dating or whatever. Generalizations complicate things so much.

    http://www.ellecherieamour.wordpress.com

  • jazzyphile

    I don’t particularly like Steve Harvey either since he has pretty much destroyed the english language and got paid for it–but Isn’t this movie a comedy? It ani’t that serious y’all.

  • Brownsugar

    I believe when both men and women are dating we should come together and have a conversation. we should let one another know the things that we like and dislike, by the end of the date we should know if this is the person we want to go on a second date with, but what I see and have experience we are too busy trying to sex one another that we forget to have a true conversation because we dont want to run the person away. I have read the book and yes Steve give a lot of great points in the book for single women, and yes it is things that we should know as women. I still dont believe that we should have to think like a man to get or keep one. I believe communication is the key but that just me.

  • Bonnie

    *standing ovation* If we’re supposed to think like the other, it would just about eliminate the need for communication. Communication…at least good communication is something most people agree is what contributes to a good relationship. If we thought alike we would almost be psychics.