“It was a very strange time and it sort of rocketed me into adulthood. It was a violent crash into being an adult,” John Mayer shared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. It was also a public one. After a string of interviews that most would deem reckless, the guitar playing sing-songwriter took some time off and did some growing up. It was time to “be 33 and 34, instead of 28 for the fourth year.”

Defining adulthood is always a bit murky. Being legal is one thing, being grown is another. Independence, careers, and material possessions seem like signs of adulthood, until something dramatic happens and they disappear. Or you come up in an economy that makes those things more difficult to acquire. For most people who consider themselves adults, there was a defining moment (or series of moments) that revealed a level of maturity and strength that signaled true transition.

What was the moment that pushed you into adulthood?

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  • when I had my first utility to bill to pay , i sighed and said to myself “being grown comes at a price”
    It will hit me again when I have a mortgage to pay.

  • BFDuster

    For me, it was being able to diagnose mental disorders and to see hypocrisy in what my father said/did and promising to do better than him when I could actually be called an adult (y’know, bills, my own place and a job, etc…).

    And now I am and “adult”–freed from my prison of not being considered worthwhile or intelligent or mature or anything simply because I had no means as a child to pay bills and stuff.

  • Nigerian sista

    Moving out and living on my own. Also realising that i’m the only one responsible for my happiness. :-)