My friend Carla is about 5’11, and in heels she could be anywhere from 6’0-6’2. Together we look like the Twin Towers. We’ve both discovered one of the hardest things about dating is being taller than the average woman, and in heels taller than the average man. Carla has recently made a major concession when it comes to the men she’ll date. But it’s not one I’m ready to make.
After deciding to make her minimum height requirement 5’8, she now feels her dating pool will dramatically open up. On the other hand, there’s me. I’m sticking to my rule of 6’0+ and even that is still on the short side. I blame this on the people I grew up around. I have 6 uncles and no one is under 6’1 and my tallest uncle is 6’5. I was always surrounded by giants, including my grandmother who’s about 5’10. The shortest people in my family are considered average height for women. I’m just grateful that I didn’t end up with my little brother’s height of 6’5. I guess I’m a superficial when it comes to height. But that’s not saying I haven’t been in a relationship with someone who’s short, but it hasn’t happened often.
Earlier this year, How About We compiled a list of 7 reasons to date a shorter guy. I can’t say that I totally agree with all of them, but number 1 is definitely true, and I truly can’t deal with a man with a Napoleon Complex.
1. “Handsome” doesn’t have a height requirement. Seriously, a good face and hot body looks just as good at 5’7″ as it does at 6’3″.
2. Maybe you’re not a supermodel, but you’ll certainly get to feel like one when you go out with him in heels.
3. A short guy willing to go out with a girl who’s taller than he is confident and probably ok with his girlfriend upstaging him. He’s not too hung up on appearance or machismo. This is a good quality to have in a boyfriend.
4. Uhm, you say Napoleon Complex like it’s a bad thing? Guys with Napoleon complexes are ambitious, capable and driven: they also have learned how to command respect through means other than appearance, all admirable traits. And as for Napoleon himself, well, you know he was sexy as hell, right?
5. And speaking of overcompensating: this is by no means scientific, but the general consensus from women seems to be that guys who don’t necessarily feel the most attractive will often work much harder in bed, whereas the Don Drapers of the world, who are used to being wanted and pursued by women, focus more on the act of receiving pleasure than giving it.
6. Being willing to date a shorter gentleman widely opens up your dating pool. Putting height requirements on your list of potential romantic partners simply means fewer potential bachelors.
7. The best reason to date a short guy is because you’re not a shallow, regressive woman who associates sexual and emotional compatibility with whether or not the guy is a few inches taller, and because you don’t equate your own femininity and sexuality with the notion of being shorter, weaker, than your protective mate. It’s 2012! You have higher (but not taller!) standards now.
Do you have a height preference? Have you ever made concessions for it?