On my list of “The Worst Songs Ever Written”, Akinyele’s “Put It In Your Mouth” is at the very top. Not only because of the subject matter it explores, but also because after seeing what Akinyele looked like in real life, I just couldn’t imagine any woman wanting to put his body parts anywhere near their mouth.

Numbing up your tonsils, like Ambesol anesthetic

Cummin down your throat like Chloraseptic (take it

Out my mouth)

No time for apologin.. girlfriend if you..

Swallowin {gurgle}.. garglin

In 1996 and even til this day, when this song comes on at a club, I’m amazed at how many women love to scream the lyrics at the top of their lungs.  I’m always left feeling awkward because I still cringe when I listen to the song.

Another song on that list is Camron f/ Lil Wayne “Suck It Or Not”:

Lick, suck, deep throat, stop, cough, hop on, hop off, lollipop off

I know it’s white,

but here come the hot sauce.

Hot sauce? You’re referring to semen as hot sauce? How appetizing.

If you needed any more references as to why people feel some hip-hop can be misogynistic, just try to find all of the references to oral sex being performed by women, it’s pretty amazing.

I’m the last one to say that oral sex is bad.  There’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults pleasuring each other.  But the expectation that many men put on women to digest their love juices just doesn’t digest well with me.  I’ve had this conversation with several guy friends and just about all of them have confirmed that if they find out a woman doesn’t swallow, it’s a complete turn off.

I find it hilarious that they all felt the need to inform me of the ‘nutritional’ value of semen.  GoAskAlice, at Columbia University gave the following as the nutritional break down of semen:

A typical ejaculation fills up about one teaspoon; the actual amount is determined by a man’s age (younger men usually make more semen), when he last ejaculated, and how long he’s aroused before ejaculating, among other factors. Contrary to what you’ve heard, semen is not loaded with calories. Each teaspoon of ejaculate has about 5 – 7 calories and some 200 – 500 million sperm. Since sperm make up only about 1 percent of semen, what accounts for the other 99 percent? Well, its other ingredients include:

  • Fructose sugar
  • Water
  • Ascorbic acid (a.k.a., vitamin C)
  • Citric acid
  • Enzymes
  • Protein
  • Phosphate and bicarbonate buffers (bases)
  • Zinc

Can swallowing semen enrich a protein poor diet? Unless you’re gulping gallons of it each day, it’s no substitute for real nutritious cuisine!

I’m pretty sure, no one is sitting around gulping gallons of semen because of its protein benefits. I think eating a steak would be a lot more appetizing.  I just don’t understand a man’s fascination with this aspect of oral sex. Does it make them feel in charge? More accepted by the woman?

Just like intercourse, oral sex has its risks as well. STDs and STIs (sexually transmitted infections) can be transmitted through pre-cum and ejaculation, as well as through a simple cut in the mouth, or after having oral surgery.  So if you’re not using a dental dam or a condom, you could possibly be sending out an open invitation to all types of diseases.

Just as there are some men that expect a woman to swallow, there those women who enjoy it.  I have one girlfriend in particular who relishes in it.  I’ve also had to remind her several times, never to offer me a drink after she’s sipped out of it.  I’m not here to judge women who choose to partake in such activities, but I am judging those men that expect it to happen.  I’m just one of those people that feel just because something has nutritional value, doesn’t mean I have to ingest it.  There will be no gargling or swallowing here.

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  1. I have the Tara from True Blood reaction: “UGH, you NASTY [email protected]#$!!”