“He who is without sin, throw the first stone.” We have heard this line from the Bible numerous times, and it basically means that we should not judge or criticize others unless we are perfect. No one is perfect, yet many still revel in throwing the first stone with harsh (sometimes down-right mean) words toward others. Why is that?
The answer is simple: people love to feel a level of superiority over others, and nitpick at the short-comings of others in order to distract themselves from their own issues. The best kind of criticism is constructive criticism because it is actually meant to help instead of kicking a person while they are down. Unfortunately, there is a large number of people who prefer to be mean for no other reason than to just be cruel. The same ones who would want to be forgiven or given a break when they mess up are the same ones who are quick to condemn their fellow-man.
It makes people feel good to be able to say, “I’m bad, but at least I’m not that bad.” The illusion of your better self is an intoxication similar to that of any regular narcotic. Drugs are used to distract yourself from any pain or problems you may be experiencing. Throwing stones at those who you deem to be worst off than you does the same thing.
The reality of the situation is that constantly pointing out and making fun of the flaws in others is merely a mirage. Once it is gone your demons will still be on front street. Sadly, we live in a society where people will always break others down in order to build themselves up. It’s easy to put on a facade in public, but when you’re alone there is nowhere to hide. No matter what you do to cover them up, your issues will always be there waiting for you to deal with them.
The next time you gear up to throw stones, ask yourself if you really have the right to.