Not only is Dwayne Wade considered a force to be reckoned with on the basketball court, he’s also taking a shot at writing.  It’s hasn’t been that long since he’s gained custody of his two children, after a very messy divorce from his ex-wife Siohvaughn Funches but he’s written a new book about his journey as a single parent, “A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger than Basketball.”

In an interview with Jet Magazine, the star basketball player described his custody battle and how his life experiences influenced his parenting methods.

Wade on his reason for pushing through the difficult custody battle:
“I didn’t set out to get full custody but I wasn’t able to see my kids the way I wanted and I’m not a parent who’s going to run away from his responsibilities. I was probably a terrible husband, but I pride myself on being a good dad.”

Wade on his rocky relationship with estranged ex-wife Siohvaughn Funches:
“It’s been six years and hopefully one day she and I can get to the point where it’s a lot easier than it is now to co-parent.”

Mom Jolinda Wade on how Dwyane’s dad impacted his fathering:
“Dwyane came up not having a father around, so he didn’t think he was missing anything. But having his father take over the key role in parenting was very impactful. That was the first view he got as a young man to see what to do and what not to do.”

Dwyane on his fathering skills of his two sons Zaire, 11, and Zion, 5 and nephew Dahveon Morris, 11 (who he has legal guardianship of):

“I’m the kind of parent who asks my kids questions like what would be your ideal thing to do in the summer? This year it’s Disney World,” explains Wade, the proud father of two boys. Even though I make the final decision, I want them to feel involved. Not only in vacations but other things as well.”

Great interview. But please, no more of these “pants”:

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  • Marketing Gimmicks

    I won’t lie. I feel some type of way about Dwayne and the way he’s treated his ex-wife and the mother of his children…all the while creative this narrative that has turned him into the Messiah of Black Super Dads. I get that he takes being a father seriously it takes a certain level of viciousness to take children away from their mothers. He argued that his wife was mentally unstable but yet made not one but two beautiful baby boys with her.

    I don’t know about Gabby but I couldn’t trust a man who’s capable of going IN on a woman he procreated with. For me that speaks volumes about his character which is shady grady.

    • AnnT

      I will not deny his basketball skills, but there is something about his character that seems very disingenuous and phony.

    • ” it takes a certain level of viciousness to take children away from their mothers. ”

      That right? And what level of viciousness would you assign the mother who denies him his parenting rights and disappears with ?
      the kids.

    • Anthony

      Divorces and custody battles are often extremely nasty. Many women lie about their husbands or boyfriends to get them out of the picture.
      I remember a story of women who lied on her ex, accusing him of assault and getting him arrested. He stopped seeing his daughter for fear of going back to jail. Although he continued to pay child support.

      Very often kids grow up hating their fathers because they only got half of the story.

      I’ve got a feeling that D. Wade had just written a check and then went off with his actress girlfriend, he would be seen as another absent or unconcerned father.

    • Anthony

      Unless you have inside information about their marriage, the only thing you know for sure is that it failed.
      I seriously doubt if there would be criticism of woman who was rough on her ex during a divorce.

    • dbsm

      one thousand thumbs up

    • dbsm

      that was @marketing gimmicks

      @anthony– “Many women lie “….

      thanks for that old narrative. that’s why women have suffered and continue to do so. this continues to be a pervasive believe in society. it contributes to misogyny

    • Anthony

      Many women do lie in custody cases, so do many men. As I said before, divorces and custody cases are often nasty and bitter. I responded to the assertion that a man like Dwayne Wade must be a bad person for fighting his wife for custody of the children. Such an assumption suggests a hatred for men because it assumes that woman is always the better parent and that the man is always at fault in the failure of a marriage.

      As an adult and a parent, I have seen absentee and abusive fathers and I have seen women who are too selfish or cruel mothers. I do not make assumptions based on gender about parental fitness in custody cases. To do so is sexist in my opinion.

    • Anthony

      Marketing Skills, think about your statement about not trusting Wade because he turned on the mother of his children. Imagine if every woman who ever divorced the father of her children was held to that same standard?
      I understand sisterhood and feminine solidarity, but your logic is just plain faulty in this case. Just think about it: a couple marries; they have kids; over a few years, one notices some serious issues with his or her spouse. How many couples do you know that have five year trial period before they conceive?

      Men are flawed. We deserve a hell of a lot of criticism or even scorn, but what you said makes no sense, and those who have given you pluses have co-signed a glaring double standard.

  • I will not give him props for doing what he is supposed to do, but he is definitely a role model for men to follow…….with the exception of those pants.

  • lol

    i have a lot of respect for Dwayne Wade, and as for the ladies above saying he seems phony, well…I remember reading about his wife going through 11 divorce lawyers, 11 folks… she seems to have her issues…i’m jus sayin.

  • He’s no role model. In the article, he admitted he was a terrible husband, but has tried to be a good dad:

    “I didn’t set out to get full custody but I wasn’t able to see my kids the way I wanted and I’m not a parent who’s going to run away from his responsibilities. I was probably a terrible husband, but I pride myself on being a good dad.”

    Here’s where his logic fails – being a good father and good husband are not mutually exclusive. The type of husband you are has a LOT to do with the type of father and role model you are for your kids. Being a good role model, in large part, consists of showing your children what a good husband does and what a healthy relationship is, so that it is easier for them to find quality partners and have quality relationships when they get older, those children can be a good role model for their own children and so forth. So he’s doing things only half right, at best. A good father will put his family first, so IMO, there’s no way to be a great dad and terrible husband at the same time.

    That being said, I have no idea how is ex was – so I can’t put all of the blame on him.

    • Anthony

      A lot of people fail in their relationships but work hard at parenting. Once again, this true for lots women and men.

    • lol

      ^^^I love this!

  • @ Anthony – We learn a lot from our parents as to how to treat people, how we feel we deserve to be treated, etc. For example, a girl who grows up to see her father mistreating his wife or cheating on her likely is going to end up either being with someone who cheats on her/treats her poorly OR learns that is acceptable behavior and repeatedly cheats or treats her husband poorly.

    I know a lot of people who have relationship issues precisely because all they’ve witnessed is disfunctional relationship. I am one of them and it literally has taken lots of therapy, time (I’m almost 30), and going through terrible relationships, and finally being in a good relationship for me to learn what it means to have a healthy relationship with a man.

    So, no matter how much you try to keep parenting and marriage separate, one always affects the other. If you put your own selfish needs/desires ahead of your marriage (i.e., constantly cheating/abusing your spouse) than you are doing a disservice to your children as well.

    BTW, I would say the same thing about woman – a woman cannot be a great mother and a terrible wife at the same time.

    • Anthony

      Fair enough, I just do not want to see a man dogged for stuff that some will rationalize away if done by a woman.

    • lol

      once again, this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!