Society paints a certain picture of new mommyhood, where mothers experience an instant bond with their children. In reality, not every mother connects with their child immediately. Tamar gave voice to that experience, saying she felt unattached to her adorable son Logan at first.

In an interview with “Good Morning America,” she said via Necole Bitchie:

“I guess in a sense, I did feel unattached because I really really wanted to connect with him. I wanted to breastfeed and when he didn’t latch on and I couldn’t produce milk, I just felt like, ‘Is this the wrong child? Am I the wrong mother?

I didn’t [immediately fall in love] but I loved him. It wasn’t like, “Oh gosh, yes! My baby! Ouuh!” It wasn’t like that! It was “What do I do now?”

She also initially felt jealous of her son’s instant connection with her husband, Vince:

“I was in shock and it took me a few days to come to terms with the fact that I am a mom and this is my baby. I was questioning my motherhood. Is this a mistake that God made? Is this something I should hand over to my husband because he connected with the baby instantly? And I was jealous pretty much. When he finally latched on [while breastfeeding], I felt like, “He got me and I got him and this was all meant to be.”


What are your thoughts on Tamar’s admission? Mothers, did you connect with your children right away or did it take time to develop a bond?

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