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Mark Ellis couldn’t believe the photo his 13-year-old middle school daughter took of her classroom’s sex ed poster.  With terms like “anal sex,” “grinding” and “oral sex,” Ellis became not only irate, but disgusted by what his daughter was being taught.

Ellis’ daughter attends Hocker Grove Middle School in the Shawnee Mission School District of Kansas, and immediately complained to school officials and the media, after he realized it wasn’t a prank.

“Why would you put it in front of 13-year-old students?” he asked.

“It upsets me. And again, it goes back to who approved this? You know this had to pass through enough hands that someone should have said, ‘Wait a minute, these are 13-year-old kids, we do not need to be this in-depth with this sexual education type of program,’” he said.

District spokeswoman, Leigh Anne Neal, says the poster needs to be viewed in the context of a bigger curriculum, which she calls abstinence-based for students in middle school.

“The poster that you reference is actually part of our middle school health and science materials, and so it is a part of our district approved curriculum,” Neal said. “However the item is meant to be part of a lesson, and so certainly as a standalone poster without the context of a teacher-led discussion, I could see that there might be some cause for concern.”

“This has nothing to do with abstinence or sexual reproduction,” Ellis said. “I would like to see that this particular portion of the curriculum is removed from the school.”

Ellis said if changes aren’t going to be made to the curriculum, he’s pulling his daughter out of the sex ed class.

The poster has since been removed, and the school district stated that it should have never been left up after the lesson had ended.



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  • mary burrell

    You can’t afford to have your teen ignorant about sex. They need to be informed and educated, some folks need to come out of the dark ages. Especially with sexually transmitted diseases that could get you a death sentence. Educate and inform the youth.

  • SMH

    Well she can always learn about sex when she’s months pregnant and hiding from dad b/c he thinks that she’s too young to know about sex. If she has a menstrual cycle someone better tell her about sex.

    These parents better get real! Just like he was trying to get into girls pants as a teen he needs to face the facts that some boys is going to be trying to get into his daughter’s so he or her mom better teach her the facts about sex before she learns about it while laying on her back.

    • Anthony

      @SMH, you hit the nail on the head. This man is scared to death that she is going to meet a little boy just like him when he was her age or a little older.

  • SankofaScholar

    I think dad is just still in the stages of shock that is child is learning about sex in general. I wish I had a sex ed class in at my catholic high school. Instead celibacy was really the idea that was pushed on us a students. I loved the idea of celibacy, BUT I still wanted to learn about sex anyway, this lead to experimentation and emotional mistakes that I made learning the hard way on my own. Needless to say I kick myself from time to time for being silly.

    I just wish that sex ed was taught with not just the emphasis on the act and consequences itself but also the emotional and spiritual side of sexual and emotional intimacy. Also being taught to become aware of mass media’s influence on there perceptions on themselves, love, relationship would create in general a much more aware group of pre-teen and teenagers who will soon be adults.

  • I thought I was being really progressive having a sex talk with my 10 and 9 year old (just the basics). Much to my surprise, they already knew some of it and already had misinformation. My oldest is now 12 and in junior high, meaning we had the more in-depth sex talk. Again, I was surprised by what she already knew and by some of the questions she asked (e.g. “what are anal beads?”) They’re hearing this stuff already – the question is: are you going to be the one your child comes and talks to? My parents acted similar to this dad and I was left navigating puberty and sex by myself.