On the heels of Dwayne Wade announcing the birth of his new  son conceived during a “break” from Gabrielle Union, another celebrity’s “Maury” business is being put out on front-street aka the internet.

Chris Bridges aka Ludacris is also the father of a new child conceived outside of his long-term relationship with Eudoxie.  According to TMZ, information about the child came from a court case involving Ludacris and the child’s mother, Tamika Fuller. Cai Bella Bridges was born December 9th. According to court documents the rapper is claiming he’s only pulling in $25,842.41 a month on average and is trying to prevent Fuller from reaping the benefits of an exorbitant amount of child support. Under Georgia law  his monthly child support payment would be set at $1,754.66.

Everything apparently is still on between Ludacris and his girlfriend since he posted photos of their New Year’s Eve celebration and new diamond bracelet:


Gabrielle and Eudoxie aren’t the only women in the world who choose to stay with men that have conceived children outside of their relationship.  My mother was one of those women as well, the only difference in her story is that there wasn’t million dollar rings or bracelets involved. No one can ever say why a woman chooses to stay with a man after discovering his infidelity brought a child into the world, but everyone has their reason.

Growing up I knew my father’s little secret, which eventually turned into multiple secrets, but it wasn’t anything that was discussed. I always wondered why mother didn’t leave at the moment she found out, but even though I was a child, I realized my father was the breadwinner and she really didn’t have any other options but to stay.  My mother was dependent on my father for everything.  He worked, she stayed home and took care of us.  From the outside looking in, we were the typical middle class family.  But poppa was a rolling stone that didn’t believe in condoms.

There comes a time in every woman’s life when they’ve had enough. For my mother, it was yet another birth outside of her marriage. She packed our belongings and my uncles drove to 7 hours to pick us up. That time in my childhood is still a blur, and I haven’t had much of a relationship with my father since. I know of the “others”, as my siblings and I call them, only because my mother still communicates with my father and thought we should get to know them. There was minimal Facebook interaction with one, my father’s “namesake”, but at this point in my life, I have all the siblings I need.

What would I do if I found myself in a relationship with someone and they had a child while we were on “break”? I probably wouldn’t touch their penis with a 10 foot pole after that. There won’t be any “please baby forgive me” conversations. And I’m quite sure there won’t be any diamond encrusted bracelets either. But every woman is different, and every woman has their own motives. Who am I to judge?  What I do know for sure, chances are if my mother had a baby outside of her marriage, I’m pretty sure she would have been kicked to the curb in a half of a second.

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