Yesterday a guy friend that I haven’t spoken to in about a year popped up on my Google Hangouts. We caught up on each other’s goings-on and if anything new had transpired since we last spoke. Typically during our conversations I make sure to ask about his daughter and how she’s doing with school. This time I asked about his “kids”.


That question resulted in about five question marks being sent as the reply.  He asked me what did I mean “kids”.  As if he only had one.  I then commenced to reminding him that the last time we chatted he told me about his new bundle of “joy”.  No he didn’t he said.  Then he accused me of  snooping around on him. I then reminded him that a) we don’t have friends in common for me to ask around about him b) Unlike himself, I hold down several jobs and I don’t have time to snoop around on people  c) Put down the weed, because it’s obviously affecting his memory.

Even after all of that, he didn’t remember that he told me about his new baby.  If I cared enough I would have pulled up our chat history, but I did tell him to take both of his hands, cup them together and look inside, that was exactly how many fucks I gave about his personal life.  *Closed chat window*.

I’m not sure if men are just forgetful or have a selective memory, but a recent Norwegian  study has found that men have more problems in remembering names and dates than women. And apparently if they’ve told a friend about their new baby.

“It was surprising to see that men forget more than women. This has not been documented before. It was also surprising to see that men are just as forgetful whether they are 30 or 60 years old. The results were unambiguous,” said Professor Jostein Holmen, from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) in Trondheim.

Holmen and his co-workers asked nine questions about how well people think they remember as a part of a large longitudinal population health study conducted in mid-Norway called HUNT3.

For the study, the researchers surveyed around 48, 000 participants. The participants were asked whether they found it difficult to remember things, names and dates. They were also asked if they could retain details from conversations and whether they could recollect what they did one year ago.

“We have speculated a lot about why men report more frequent problems with remembering than women do, but have not been able to find an explanation. This is still an unsolved mystery,” said Holmen.

The study also showed that people who are highly knowledgeable have good memory and those with poor education fail to remember the most. People who have anxiety and depression related problems are also more absentminded. The study also determined that the memory problems for both men and women increase after they turn 60.

So the next time a guy tells you he forgot something, maybe it is his poor memory. But on the other hand, maybe they’re just forgetting on purpose.

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  • Anthony

    Personally, I tend to be absent minded when it comes to daily activities, but I remember facts and “big things” very well.

  • Remembering things about other people I think has to do with how attentive you are in your conversations. Because women are taught to be more relational it makes sense why they would also remember more about things that have to do with people. But this doesn’t mean I’d ever excuse a man’s forgetfulness lol, he just gotta work on that.

    • Denver

      I agree. If men are more forgetful it is because of how they are socialized.

  • Yes, especially when they have done wrong in the past.

  • catrina

    girl please.
    ‘more forgetful’ my ass.

    Some years ago a then male friend of mine tried to sleep with me behind his fiancée and mother of his child ‘s back. I shut that down and cut ties with him. a couple of years later we bumped into each other on a chatroom and he wondered why I was not in touch anymore. I told him I hated what he tried to do and realized we were not friends so… He went silent for some minutes and said :” woah. i really do not know what you are talking about. I do not recall acting in that way”. I cut short the conversation there and then.

    Girl, men think in boxes. Anything that do not fit into a particular box of information is disregarded and forgetten about. A certain type of relation with a woman is limited to a specific type of information that he is willing to give out . Out of that range… well there goes the “forgetfullness”.