The Real Housewives of Atlanta made its long-awaited return Monday night and no time was wasted when it came to the couple of the moment – Phaedra and Apollo. The tension was apparent from the start, confirming the rumors that swirled all summer that these two are headed for divorce court.
Apollo was busted and found guilty of bank and wire fraud and was sentenced to eight years in prison. Monday night’s episode demonstrated Phaedra’s reluctance to be dragged into the slime her husband is currently swimming in – opting instead to flee the scene with her two boys and lodge in a hotel until the madness tapers down.
Apollo for the most part doesn’t seem that fazed by the crime he committee or the consequences he has been assigned. He seems more annoyed with his wife’s refusal to support him during this time of duress. Phaedra is clearly not sympathetic to her soon to be ex-husband’s plight. She feels betrayed and ashamed to be associated with a man who doesn’t seem to be able to abide by the law accordingly. It can’t be easy for someone who makes a living upholding the law to have a husband who spends his time breaking it.
But then again, she was aware of his tendencies when she married him and decided that he was fit enough to not just be her partner for life but also father her children. Did she give in because she was desperate to settle down and have kids before it was too late? Maybe. But you have to admit that Phaedra has tried to stick by her man through the good times and the bad, and now she is ready to walk away for the sake of her sanity and her two sons.
This opens up a dialogue that has been around since coupledom existed. When do you decide enough is enough and make a run for it? How bad does it have to get before you wave the white flag and part ways? Most women would have run for the hills before settling down with a man like Apollo, who based on his past discretions shows a pattern of being a trouble maker. It is possible to forgive and forget and hope for the best, but how realistic would the outcome be?
Apollo feels abandoned by his wife and even expresses the fact that he never knew she would be capable of being that cold to him. But what did he expect? He clearly didn’t consider how his actions would affect his family. Obviously Phaedra reached her limit – like most women who are stuck being a mom to not just the kids but the husband as well.
The lesson of the day lies in the importance of making the right decisions in the beginning so you don’t pay the price for something you had nothing to do with.
But if you do end up getting entangled – put yourself first and bounce.