The mothers (Sybrina Fulton, mother of Trayvon Martin, Lesley McSpadden, mother of Michael Brown, Samaria Rice, mother of Tamir Rice, and Gwen Carr, mother of Eric Garner) of the men and boys at the center of all the racial tension gripping the appeared on CNN to chat with Anderson Cooper about how their lives have been impacted by their insurmountable loss.

The interview was an eye-opening session that revealed the level of pain and despair that have themed the disposition of the mothers who are pretty convinced that if they’re sons were white – they would be alive today.

Each of the women gave their own personal testament regarding the excruciating consequence of what being a Black male in America can tragically produce. Fulton’s observations hindered on the current lack of basic human respect, “There is no regard anymore for human life. There has to be somewhere where we draw the line and say, ‘Listen, our kids want to grow up, too.” “We have to change our mindsets.” “We have to let people know that our children matter. Our sons and our daughters matter. We are hurting. This country is hurting.”

Gwen Carr stated with confidence that if her son had been a white man illegally selling cigarettes, “they would have given him a summons and he wouldn’t have lost his life that day”.

McSpadden, mother of Michael Brown was almost certain that Darren Wilson would be indicted for the senseless killing of her son – “You had so many witnesses”.

Tamir Rice’s mother admitted that she permitted the disturbing footage of her son’s death to be released to the public in order to give the world access to “what happened to her son”.

The women also shared the same view about how others who are not subjected to the consistency of racial profiling might perceive their situation with Fulton summarizing her sentiment, ‘it’s not happening to them, so they don’t quite like it”. “They don’t understand. They think that it’s a small group of African-Americans that’s complaining…The people say that all the time: ‘What are they complaining about now? What are they protesting about now?” “Until it happens to them and in their family then they’ll understand the walk. They don’t understand what we’re going through. They don’t understand the life and they don’t understand what we’re fighting against. I don’t even think the government gets it.”

Powerful and strong testimonies from women who had the unfortunate burden of burying their kids as a result of a crippling and fractured system that is ironically under the tutelage of an administration being governed by the first Black president.

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  • MoMoEsq

    Can anyone explain why they continually ignore the dads in these discussions? I don’t know about Eric Garner’s father, but the other three have father’s that I thought were present in their kids lives. Why is this only about the mother’s pain? Do they not want to speak, or does no one ask them to speak?

    • Bearlikesbones

      I think the media doesn’t want to show loving black fathers. Maybe I’m too far gone after all the police killings in the last few months. I think the media ignored the fathers on this one. They deserve to speak too. I hope this story gets as many comments as the Puerto Rican “perfect specimen” story.

    • Ms. Vee

      You read my mind. Black fathers are not to speak because that might suggest intact black families exist. And you know we can’t have that.

    • vintage3000

      Excellent point. The photo of Michael Brown’s stepfather crying in agony at his son’s home going service is devastating. The fathers deserve to tell their stories also. And Mr. Garner as a devoted father and grandfather who played Santa for his family… it’s too much

    • itgurl_29

      I find it funny that the only time you see black motherhood being, for a lack of a better word, “celebrated”, is when they kill our kids. They want the world to think we birth death.

    • Stef

      I thought the same thing at first but It might also be a male thing. I mean, my Dad, was not a talker so he would have never showed are talked about his emotions/feelings on TV.

    • Me

      no offense but i would bet that that would change if he ever lost you & your murderer was never tried but was given hundreds of thousands of dollars in donations from racists who wanted to see your murderer go free. from what i can tell the media always plays up the “heartbroken mom” angle in these type of stories b/c grieving moms get more ratings than grieving dads regardless of race (based on the stereotype that all women are nurturers & all men are too macho to have feelings) & i think the only thing that tops sobbing moms on tv is grieving daughters who lost their parents so they can play up the “daddy’s little girl” or “i never got to tell my mom how much i really loved her” angles. plus i don’t think this country knows the difference b/t a grieving bm & an angry militant vengeful bm, so i think they tend to keep black men off the cameras based on stereotypes. i remember in school they taught us:
      1. put the death & carnage at the beginning of the news hr b/c folks are more morbid than they let on & they love watching that kinds stuff even if it’s just so they have something to be mad about
      2. put the heartstring stories at the end & run a buncha teasers about that story coming up b/c folks will sit through a whole hr of news waiting to hear emotional stories
      3. always go for the tear-jerkers so keep the cameras on the one who’s most likely to cry (women & children)

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  • Mary Burrell

    These kids had fathers or stepfathers, i hate the media they are complicit in the perception that the society has of black men and young boys being fatherless.

  • I commend the mothers and the fathers of the victims for telling their stories, for their strength, and for their continued efforts in standing up for justice. Frankly, Black Lives Matter and Justice matters too. We have to keep on going. Many people from around the world are with us. Ferguson was the tipping point and the events around the country show that millions of people in America are fed up with police terrorism and unarmed black people being murdered. The struggle continues, but with faith and action, we will be victorious.

    • Michelle

      For me, I hope that the protests (both the ones that occurs internationally and domestically) serves as a wake-up call for all violent acts that are bestowed upon the lives of Black people.
      Being a “murder mystery-true crime” addict, I’ve notice the disparities that happen with murder cases, when the victim is either a white person or a black person.
      With a white victim, investigating detectives think of many possible motives that are behind the murders. On the other hand, with a black victim, investigating detectives follow an “A-B-C-D” formula.
      Anothr thing: with the cases that are finally receiving media attention, with the police departments’ lack of motivation for solving these cases, it appears as if these folks believe that Black people cannot become murder victims.

    • vintage3000

      On the show true crime show Disappeared there was a case of a young Black single mother who went missing. The detectives were reluctant to even label her as a missing person, with the tired ‘well maybe she left on her own’ excuses often reserved for missing POC. Her parents became frustrated with the lack of attention with their daughter’s case. When one tip suggested that maybe she stole money from a previous employer, ALL OF A SUDDEN the cops became vigilant to find her. So they had to think she was a criminal in order to light a fire under their arses and do their jobs.

    • These are great points that you have made Michelle.

      I also hope that the protests occurring globally exist as a catalyst for real change. In real life, many black people and many of the poor suffer unfairness in the judicial system. People from PhDs to grassroots organizers are standing up for what is right. Many in mainstream society use complex analysis when evaluating white people who commit crimes while black people are explained in a simplistic, stereotypical fashion by the establishment when black crimes exist. Black people have been victims of murder and oppression for a long time. Too many people are wrong to lack empathy for black human life. It is truly an injustice to have innocent, unarmed Black people being murdered by the police. This fight for our liberation will continue and we are in the right side of history. Some police agencies trying to defend their standing among their union instead of defending black human lives is disgraceful.

    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

      Does anyone in any profession whine more than cops? What is ACTUALLY the most dangerous job in America? Being a lumberjack, and yet, I don’t hear about their pain after they go on decades-long violence sprees. I’m sure they hate Greenpeace, but that’s earned. Man, I thought the Canadian Senate was corrupt (it is, we should abolish it, but no is facing physical danger), but this isn’t even in the same galaxy. Police literally can’t get arrested, don’t have to be good at their jobs, can break every rule and law that exists and still be honoured for it as though they are gods on Earth at whose feet we should all grovel. And yet, they still can’t stop it with their fucking whining. Inflatable clown balloons wriggling in front of car dealerships are held more accountable but the contract killers with their paid vacations are under siege? Give me a fucking break!

    • That’s the paradox. They claim to protect and serve, but many of them fail in their oaths. They claim to follow the law, but some use the “law and order” ethos as a way to suppress the democratic rights of the people in the world. Certainly, the ruling class for generations has used the police to harm movements and attack people. There are many examples of this. Fred Hampton and Mark Clark were killed by the Chicago police brutally in December 4, 1969. The MOVE organizations were bombed by the Philadelphia police unjustly during the 1980’s. The police nearly killed Sister Fannie Lou Hamer. Black men, women, and children were assaulted by the police during the 1950’s and during the 1960’s during the Second Reconstruction. Even today, our Brothers and our Sisters have been assaulted and killed by crooked police officers. We have every right to express outrage at police terrorism. The younger generation and the older generation has voiced their call for justice. We are inspired.

    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

      It’s really bad in Canada with First Nations’ women. Oh, gosh, I can’t remember the year (not that long ago), but there are over 1200 cases of missing First Nations’ women and you couldn’t get the Prime Minister to pay attention under torture. Canada is racist as hell towards Black people, yes, but we our treatment isn’t nearly as bad as what the First Nations’ people have to go through. The last residential school closed in 1996! You know what would make the cops here overjoyed? If, (as one Police Chief said some years ago) all the crime really WAS committed by Jamaicans and all of those crimes were targeting First Nations’ women. That way, they could get rid of both and everyone would be happy.

    • blogdiz

      This is so true , it seems for the most part white people would reluctantly co-exist with Black people if they would only know their place you know entertain us sing dance make jokes play sports and shut up (no sassing or eye rolling) but they have always wanted First Nations and Native American to be completely annihilated ( is it because they are a nuisance of a reminder that they stole their lands Dunno ?) but historically the hate is to two different ends

    • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

      Definitely. A few years ago, a few years ago a couple of reserves in northern Manitoba were hit really hard with swine flu, so when the Grand Chief of that region of reserves requested more medical attention, Ottawa sent body bags. How do you hold your head up for the shame you should feel when your nation’s communities are calling upon you to just do your job? What kind of horrible message is that to send?

      It’s funny in the, ‘not funny at all’ sense that Canada prides itself on its inclusiveness when the second something bad happens it’s because of ‘Violent Blacks’ and ‘Drunken Indians’. It’s not easy for Black people here, for sure–you name it, I’ve experienced it here, but First Nations people here, they’re almost like non-persons here.

      If something happened to me here, no one would care. If something happens to a First Nations woman here, no one is told. They’d assume I’m a thug and that she’s a prostitute (because there’s a definite ‘live by the sword, die by the sword’ mentality here). No happy way to end that thought.

  • Michelle

    re: Sybrina Fulton’s statements about hearing the “Why Black people…?” questions.
    On the other day, I was watching an episode of “Murder Book” on ID Discovery channel. This episode was about a teenaged girl’s murder. Her mom discovered her body in their home’s bathroom. In that episode, the parents of the slain girl were frustrated with the lack of progress in their daughter’s case, so they contacted the investigating detectives’ supervisor. Also, the mother had sent one detective a card with a photo of the girl, to remind him that she still has family members that wants her case to be solved. And this woman had sent him a card and a photo in the mail, every DAY for many years. Also they held a fund-raiser to raise awareness of their daughter’s case as well. Eventually, their daughter’s murderer (a teenaged neighbor, who was interviewed at one point) was discovered and was sent to prison. It had occurred decades later, but he was brought to justice and this girl’s case was closed.
    The reason why I had brought this up was because of the fact that ANYBODY and EVERYBODY can quickly relate to this girl’s parents’ need to find her killer’s identity and to bring him to justice. However, that “anybody and everybody” population changes, when Trayvon, Tamir, Eric and Michael is involved. Those same people who would fight for rightful justice (if this was their child or another white child), even after a judge announces a “case closed”, are looking at their parents and saying “Well, it’s not going to trial. Youre gonna have to accept that!”

  • mdottwo

    Maybe someone ought to take it upon themselves to organize a group of fathers who have lost their sons to police aggression. Black men should be pro-active in defining and presenting their collective image to the world. They need to stand in the public square and tell the world that they love their women and children, and that they demand their children be protected.

    • Tanielle

      Wishful thinking…