Nearly 20 years after Tupac Shakur’s death, Jada Pinkett Smith reminisced with Howard Stern on Wednesday, about what broke up their friendship.

“He was a revolutionary without a revolution if that makes any kind sense,” Pinkett Smith told Stern. “And that kind of energy transferred to a whole other thing.”

She also claimed that their friendship was strictly platonic.

“You know, it’s so funny. Now being older, I have more of an understanding of what that was between us,” she reflected of their platonic chemistry. “When you have two young people that have very strong feelings, but there was no physical chemistry between us at all, and it wasn’t even just for me! It was him too. There was a time when I was like, ‘Just kiss me! Let’s just see how this goes.’ When I tell you it had to be the most disgusting kiss for us both.”

She reasoned that they just were not meant to be. “The only way I can put it is that the higher power did not want it at all. If Pac and I had any kind of sexual chemistry, we might have killed each other because we were both so passionate. And you know, we loved deeply,” she reflected. “It was hard enough with us just being friends. It was volatile relationship.”

“I’ve had never in my life met a person like Pac. He had so much charisma. And he was poor,” she noted of the Harlem native. “When I met Pac, he owned two pairs of pants and two sweaters… He used to tell me all the time. He was like, ‘Jada, you’re a superstar.’ He didn’t say it about himself.”

She said they both made their ascent to fame together in the ’90s. “It really happened for us both at the same time,” she shared.

Only their paths diverged. “He went to jail,” she recalled. “There was a lot of things that transpired once he went to jail. It was really when he came out. Jail was a very difficult experience for him, and of course, we were on two sides of the spectrum. Pac and I have always had very intense conversations… and we had a very hardcore disagreement.”

Pinkett Smith revealed what broke their friendship in their final disagreement before his death. “I just wasn’t in agreement with the direction that he was taking, and I told him that, you know, it was a destructive direction. A very scary direction,” she said. “And he felt as though I had changed. I’d gone Hollywood. I’d gone soft. And looking back now, I totally understand where Pac was at the time… It was a mentality he started to come out of before he was murdered.”

Pinkett Smith also discussed how she felt after Tupac’s murder.

“I don’t think I was guilty as much as I felt just sadness, for not having the opportunity to tell him that I loved him,” she shared, getting emotional with Stern. “But, I know he knew that. It wasn’t the first time that we had had a bad argument and stopped speaking. That was a constant in our relationship.”

“It definitely taught me a lesson,” she dished. “Which is life is too short. Do not let disagreements stand in between you and people that you love.”

Image Credit: Courtesy of Jada Pinkett Smith

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  • TeflonD

    He got the drawers.

  • Mary Burrell


  • This is a very interesting story. Both Jada and Tupac are strong minded people. Jada Pinkett Smith said great advice about how life is short and we need to cultivate better relationships among friends. Tupac’s death was a tragedy.

    RIP Tupac Shakur.

  • binks

    Very interesting and very perceptional. I always felt like Tupac was either way before his time or not born in advance for his time. He was very idealistic and revolutionary albeit controversial and lived in a bubble sort of like Michael Jackson if you look at their interviews because they both had an idea of how the world SHOULD be instead of what IT IS if that makes sense. And I agree with her feeling like that probably transform him and his focus into things that would have been better left alone.

    And I agree with Truthseeker about Jada and Tupac being very strong minded individuals and very demanding individuals especially in relationships so they would not have worked. In this case, they probably needed to met their polar opposites in love i.e. Will and Kidada Their relationship is the main example of that despite the love, respect, passion, strong feelings and devolution that it doesn’t mean you are meant to be together romantically. They probably would have destroyed each other because sometimes that much passion/love can either be amazing when the relationship is great but the lowest of the lows when the relationship is bad. But despite it all Tupac is still very much missed. I would have loved to see how he would have changed or evolved if his life wasn’t cut short.

    • Mary Burrell

      Will and Kidada? Quincey Jones daughter? Did she and Will date?

    • I don’t believe that Will and Kidada dated. Tupac dated Kidada just before he died in 1996. I was in the 8th grade when he was shot and died in September 1996 in Las Vegas. I remember it just like it was yesterday. Jada and Will have opposite personalities in my view. Kidada and Tupac might of been opposites too.

    • Mary Burrell


    • You’re Welcome.

    • ZORINO

      You were in 8th grade when ‘Pac passed away. Damn, I feel old. Lol.

      If I’m not mistaken 2pac and Kidada were even engaged. How ironic, being that in the past Pac did say some negative things about Quincy Jones and his love for white women.

    • Yes, I was a youngster. Lol.

      1996 was an interesting year. As you have mentioned, Kadida Jones was engaged to Tupac. Tupac was once married to a woman named Keisha Morris too. Tupac did criticize Quincy Jones for marrying a white woman. He apologized to him later on. Tupac was a honest man whether people agreed with him or not.

    • binks

      Sorry if it wasn’t clear but Truthseeker cleared it up, I wanted to say that Will and Kidada was a good match for Tupac and Jada because they seem like their opposites and it worked. I mean Will and Jada is going on nearly 20 years of marriage I think and from the interviews and pictures of Tupac and Kidada he seemed like a different calmer person in her presence.