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Hey, guess what? It’s 1992 and it’s cool to be a White girl who gets Black guy’s attention. Except it’s not. Unless, of course, you’re Tess Holiday and you’re telling magazines in 2015 that “Black men love me.” A fact the “world’s first size 22 supermodel” forgets until she goes to a Black neighborhood and is reminded.

Let the street harassment stereotypes begin – or, perhaps, continue in this case.

If you’re unfamiliar with Tess, she’s the full-figured White girl with the pretty face magazines like People have been going crazy over simply because she’s unapologetically fat and, as a result, has attracted the attention of nearly 1 million Instagram followers, a number of designers and brands like Monif C and Benefit, and the British agency Milk Model Management which recently signed her. Oh, and Black men – a random piece of information she blurted out during an interview that reminded us sometimes the less you know about a person’s real personality the better.

The comment came out while Tess was sitting in a café with an interviewer from The Guardian and “an African American guy, middle-aged, said something appreciative as he walked by.” According to the UK site, that prompted Tess to ask:

“What do guys think they’ll achieve by yelling something? They’re like: ‘She’ll love this, I’ll definitely get her number.’”

The author notes that Tess then added, “with some satisfaction:”

“I do admit that black men love me. I always forget that, and then I come to a black neighborhood and I remember.”

The interviewer then hilariously remarked, “And no one quite knew what to say.”

If we were in fact still living in the days of the “Jungle Fever” craze and it was a novel thing to catch the attention of a Black man – as a White woman – I might ask Tess if she wanted a cookie. But since it’s not, I’m more inclined to respond with a simple, and?

We all know the stereotype, Black men love big women. And they especially love a fat White woman – except when they don’t. At least not exclusively anyway. Tess is a beautiful woman and I’m sure she attracts the attention of many men – like her White fiancé – which is why I’m confused (leaning more toward annoyed) that this became a “Black thing.”

On one hand, Tess’s comments can be taken as nothing more than an off-color observation that she probably could – and should – have kept to herself. On the other, I’m having flashbacks of the street harassment video that went viral last fall and somehow only managed to show Black and Latino men hurling unwanted taunts at a woman walking around New York City and feeling some type of way. To steal a line from Jesse Williams who, in the wake of Ferguson, reminded the world there’s nothing “Black” about rioting, there’s also nothing “Black” about street harassment. And there’s nothing cute about insinuating there is to toot your own horn.

I don’t know a woman on this earth (over the age of 16) who enjoys getting catcalled while walking down the street, so we’re all in agreement with Tess’s inquiry as to what do guys think they’ll achieve by yelling something at a woman. But I’m curious what she thought she’d achieve by admitting Black men love her – I didn’t realize that was something that needed confessing – and then pointing out she forgets until she steps in a Black neighborhood and is seemingly unfortunately reminded, except for the purpose of ego stroking that it serves.

Here’s a newsflash: Black men also love Latina women, Asian women, Indian women, and, lest we forget, Black women. That’s right, you are not special Tess, and neither are the circumstances in which you found yourself on the receiving end of unwanted attention. It happens every day B, and to women across every shade of the rainbow and from an equal number of men along the same racial spectrum. In other words, while Tess has a lengthy list of accomplishments under her belt, catching the eye of Black men isn’t one of them. Move along; there’s nothing to see here.

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  • chanela

    and we’re like, DUH! This is all I ever see when black guys date interracially. They manage to find the biggest white and hispanic women (even asian) that they can find.

  • Mary Burrell

    So what and water is wet.

  • AdebisisHat

    I’m sure they’re out there, but in my personal life, I don’t know a single black woman who is in any way pressed about interracial relationships between black men and white women (fat or otherwise).

    However, we can’t ignore the fact that some ignorant (and largely self-hating) black men can’t simply be contented with their choice to date a white woman and leave it at that. No, these imbeciles are motivated as much by their enjoyment of white women as they are by an internalized hatred of black women, so they feel the need to go out of their way to engage in misogynoir, spewing the most venomous poison about black women to anyone within earshot. THAT is what black women (rightly) have a problem with.

    What’s that, you’re a black man who exclusively wants to date white women? Have at it, do you, and more power to you! However, when your love of white women is fed by, and contingent upon your hatred and contempt for black women, please believe that black women don’t have to sit idly by and accept this state of affairs. You clearly feel comfortable expressing your negative opinions on black women, so don’t be shocked when black women (and others) in turn express their negative opinions of you. Oh, and don’t bother ascribing those criticisms to jealousy. It’s beyond lazy and pathetic – as if jealousy is the only conceivable reason why someone would object to being belittled and dehumanized. SMH.

    • WabBab

      its not even just hatred toward black women, its self hatred

  • Noirluv45

    LOL! I’m laughing because I’ve run into many “Tess’s” out there. Yes, those White women so impressed by the attention they receive from the coveted Black man. He’s a prize to be won, and she’s just the one to do it.

    I remember a long time ago when a Black acquaintance was talking about Quincy Jones, and a White girl in the room said with such glee, “Oh, he likes White women.” I also remember my mother’s friend’s son told my mother that his White girlfriend thought that he didn’t like Black women.

  • keepin’ it real

    Um, can we stop pretending that this is a white girl thing, because it’s not. It’s clearly a fat girl thing. For someone like her who’s been fat all her life, I’m quite sure it was exciting for her to encounter men who are openly attracted to her. She has a pretty face, and I find that black and Hispanic men tend to appreciate that a lot, more so than white men, who will take a butterfaced chick as long as she has a “hawt” body. Granted, she’s like, REALLY fat, her face almost looks like it doesn’t belong on her body, but hey, whatever floats your boat I guess. What kills me are all these heifers getting butt hurt that this chick just so happens to be flattered that black men find her attractive, when I know that more than half of you are probably fat yourselves, just like her, and LOOOVVE it when some niggas holla at you. It makes you feel sexy. You geniunely think that he likes you and he’ll take your fat self around his friends. He hits it and quits it, and you’re a mess over it. LOL! We all know that black and Hispanic men will hit it with an obese girl just because it’s easy sex. No matter what she looks like, either. Don’t matter what race she is, they will go for it, and you big bitches just fall all over yourselves about it. Though I do think that Tess is really too overweight, at least she has a REALLY pretty face, which is rare for a woman of her size, in any ethnicity. So I can’t be mad with those fellas! All of you whining are probably just bright green with envy, all the miles of weave, bad makeup, and crash diets can never make you as pretty as her! Pathetic.

    • Staci Elle

      So you’re speaking for yourself right heaux?

    • keepin’ it real

      Aww, baby is upset, someone call the waaaaaabulance! ? LOL! No, I’m not overweight, never have been. But, I still stand by my opinion. Catty heifers like you are jealous of this girl because you know you could never look as good at that size. So black men like her, why does that bother you so much? Your self-esteem is so horrendous that in order to rationalize your inadequacy, you tell yourself that only “low-class” black men could ever be interested in her, (Like all you attract are the good black men, right? Bitch please!) And then lie to yourself that black women somehow don’t get fat in the same way as white women and stay “curvy” (Just so where clear, fat rolls don’t count as curves, see Gabby Sidibe ) It’s just so sad. I’m tired of black females like you running their mouths about how annoyed you get or offended you get when a white woman talks about dating black men, or about how black men are primarily attracted to them. Why do you care? It really doesn’t matter where the source of your protest comes from, you sound catty, pathetic, jealous and bitter. Get your own life, your own man, and maybe you won’t be so bitter. Btw, your comeback was weaksauce. Try again.

    • Staci Elle

      “Btw, your comeback was weaksauce. Try again.”

      According you and you only. and I will never expend the effort on you that you’ve expended on me. Please do read all of my comments you peon. Lastly lol also Im married to a wonderful man and nowhere near fat nor do I wear a weave so take several seats you nasty looking no pic having heaux.

    • keepin’ it real

      “and I will never expend the effort on you that you’ve expended on me.”
      Uh, yeah that’s because you have nothing of importance to contribute, and lack the ability to defend your ignorance. And if you happen to be married to such a wonderful man why do you care what type of women black men are attracted to? Still can’t answer that question huh? because I answered it for you, JEALOUS. And now you’ve gotten defensive because you now feel like the ass you are, have a nice life! ?

    • Staci Elle

      Actually I don’t care who individual black men date but collectively, I care because I love brown babies and want the black race to continue. And by black race I don’t mean a bunch of bi-racial people. Question answered.

    • keepin’ it real

      “I care because I love brown babies and want the black race to continue. And by black race I don’t mean a bunch of bi-racial people”

      BWAHAHAHAHA! This is just so stupid, I don’t even know where to begin. First of all, “Black” is not a race. Second of all, if we are refering to blacks of afro-american heritage, we are already “bi-racial”. Which is why our skin tones, eye color, and bone structure. Most of us have a fair amount of european ancestry, some have native as well. Due to slavery, all afro-Americans are “mixed” to some degree. So your concerns really don’t make any sense. But keep it up, you and white nationalists have a lot in common, how ’bout you preach that on over at stormfront? LOL!

    • Staci Elle

      Nah bi -racial is when one parent is not black. Sure Im light skinned but both of my parents are black. And why would I go to Stormfront when I love black people. Im where I need to be, a site focused toward black women.
      Whether you believe race is a construct or not, appearing to be non white, black especially comes with a specific type of treatment in the Us and worldwide, don’t be ignorant to that.

    • keepin’ it real

      No, bi racial means having a mixed racial background of any kind. Post-slavery ways of thinking, and the “one drop rule” is what has lead to the idea that only “mulattos” classify as bi-racial. Sure, you are light skinned, which is more than likely evidence of some kind of european ancestry in your blood line, even though both of your parents are “black”. And it happens all the time. I’m not saying that people who have more traditional African features don’t get stereotyped the world over, but the issue of “race”, who we are, how we look, and how we are treated isn’t so simple, or “black and white” so to speak.

    • Staci Elle

      I dont believe in the one drop rule. I believe its racist. If a person looks white and are perceived as white even if they have one drop of black blood their white. I believe that people with a non black parent are bi racial* and people with two black parents are black light skinned or dark.

      ** Now if a bi racial person is perceived as black and they want to identify as black that’s their right and I will refer to them as black.

    • keepin’ it real

      Also, just some food for thought, considering the large number of “black” people across the African diaspora, I highly doubt Brown babies are going anywhere.

    • Staci Elle

      I love all my black people worldwide. but Im referring to the US. Im in Los Angeles and sometimes I see will go a while without seeing a full black baby, with the exception to the new babies from my cousins and my 2 of my homeboys recently)Sure all babies are precious but I stan for black people, black women especially and I will never apologize for that.

    • keepin’ it real

      I get that, but I just don’t think thats very realistic. I love Brown babies too, they are the cutest. But people date who they date. Should I happen to marry a white guy, I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t want that child to come out looking more like me. But what does “full black” even mean? There are plenty of Brown skinned black people who have a child with light skin and light eyes, and everyone around that child assumes she’s bi-racial in the mulatto sense. i just think is unfair to put those sorts of stipulations on what looks “black” and what doesn’t, when we’re all so mixed in the first place anyway.

    • Staci Elle

      Im not unreasonable, I don’t think any black person is fully African or else we would be African, right? I mean children of two African american or black people. And its not just about looks either, the mindset is key to me as well, people raised by a white person especially a ww they think differently then a person raised by BP.

      I could go into alot of examples but heres just one. I worked with a ww who told me straight out that she felt that bi racial babies were an improvement on black babies. If you’re raised by someone who thinks like that you are not going to have the same mindset of a BP.

    • keepin’ it real

      And that is terrible. No self respecting black man should ever procreate with an ignorant beast like that. But that woman’s mentality is not indicative of all white women who marry and/or procreate with black men. There are plenty of white mothers of black daughters who teach their daughters to love their Brown skin and natural hair, and are open to learning what they need to give their daughters a good sense of self. Having two black parents is no guarantee that a black child will be raised feeling comfortable in their blackness. Hell, most of the self-hating ways of thinking we have absorbed, especially us black women came from our mothers and fathers (Not mine specifically, and I’m not assuming yours, either, btw but you get what I mean) plenty of dark skinned black women don’t find good black men to cherish them, as lusting after light skinned black women seems to be a way of thinking nurtured by black men down the generational line. So if those black women can find that happiness in the arms of a white guy who finds her skin beautiful, then I see nothing wrong with that. As far as white women are concerned, some just are attracted to darker skin. And I’m not denying that there are black men who specifically go after white women for racial reasons, and do but us down in the process. Or that there are black women out there that would rather have a child with a Asian man (that whole blasian craze on YouTube) or a light skinned hispanic man so her kids can have lighter skin than her, with “good hair”. But I think that the solution lies in talking about this, as a community, and killing the perpetual cycle of self hate that we instill in our children.

    • Staci Elle

      “There are plenty of white mothers of black daughters who teach their daughters to love their Brown skin and natural hair, and are open to learning what they need to give their daughters a good sense of self. ”

      Maybe I’ve only met the ones who don’t? because I’ve never met one like this.

      “Having two black parents is no guarantee that a black child will be raised feeling comfortable in their blackness.”

      I agree.

      “Hell, most of the self-hating ways of thinking we have absorbed, especially us black women came from our mothers and fathers (Not mine specifically, and I’m not assuming yours, either, btw but you get what I mean) plenty of dark skinned black women don’t find good black men to cherish them, as lusting after light skinned black women seems to be a way of thinking nurtured by black men down the generational line.”

      Global white supremacy is a MF. Agreed.

      “So if those black women can find that happiness in the arms of a white guy who finds her skin beautiful, then I see nothing wrong with that. As far as white women are concerned, some just are attracted to darker skin.”

      I understand that, and I agree that no BW should wait for a self hatin black man to see their beauty. No one should have to be lonely.

      “As far as white women are concerned, some just are attracted to darker skin. And I’m not denying that there are black men who specifically go after white women for racial reasons, and do but us down in the process.”

      I agree that some bm/ww couples are formed in love, but the majority that Ive seen personally are based upon the hatred of BW or wm. But I can only talk about what Ive seen.

      “Or that there are black women out there that would rather have a child with a Asian man (that whole blasian craze on YouTube) or a light skinned hispanic man so her kids can have lighter skin than her, with “good hair”.”

      Im sure this happens, but Ive personally seen this once and yes the chick was confused. She was abandoned by her mom and her mom kept the mixed babies so she went on to have a baby with a mexican dude. Im sure some of that was rooted in her mom abandoning her and keeping her half mexican kids.

      “But I think that the solution lies in talking about this, as a community, and killing the perpetual cycle of self hate that we instill in our children.”

      Unless black people collectively have some type of wake up call. ( I would think these shootings of innocent BP would be it- but nah) We are doomed as a culture.

    • Staci Elle

      Nah you’ve read my comments I have no problems clappin back on a heaux like you, no worries. but if you must know ,I don’t actually care who BM date collectively, but am I happy that I have no interracial couples in my fam? yeah I love seeing black love. and I love black babies and I want black people to continue. Not as bi racials but as the black race. Now you have your answer.
      Now If you’re an adult please stop using emoticons, it just looks dumb.

      JEALOUS?

      You’re an adult who voluntarily chose the screen name Keepin it real, girl boo no one’s checkin for you.